(Closed) Getting married in friend's wedding venue?

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 16
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3588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I doesn’t matter at all! You don’t need their permission, they don’t own the venue. Your wedding is MONTHS away, it’s not like you picked the day after theirs. If I was them I wouldn’t mind at all. As for guest overlap, I live near a beautiful old university and it is a ridiculously popular wedding place. Like multiple weddings per weekend in peak season. I know plenty of people who have been to multiple weddings there. But it doesn’t matter at all, because it’s beautiful every time!

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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futureseh:  This wouldn’t bother me at all.  I’d actually be flattered that my friend(s) liked my venue so much that they wanted it to become their own!  I do know people who would get pissy abou it, but they’re the type who are offended by everything and think they are speshul snowflakes.

Post # 18
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1042 posts
Bumble bee

They don’t own the venue. Go for it if it’s something you want!

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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futureseh:  I live in a medium sized city and everyone gets married at the same venues. When I was planning my wedding, friends and co-workers suggested the places that they had their weddings at to look into. I’ve never heard of someone getting upset about a friend getting married in the same place unless their weddings were right on top of each other. I think you’ll be just fine and there’s no need to ask your friend’s permission. If you wanted, you could just mention that you were wowed by the venue when you went and got more information on prices/dates. Her feelings about it shouldn’t dictate whether or not you get married there, especially if you love it and it’s in your price range!  

Post # 20
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422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I think it would be totally fine. In fact, I’m dying to go to a wedding at my venue so I can do it all again from a guest perspective! 🙂 I guess it’s worth talking to your friend, though, but I feel like it should be totally fine.

Post # 21
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3075 posts
Sugar bee

I was married in the same venue as my SIL and basically everyone else in my town. It is not a big deal and I do not think anyone thought it was weird. One place can only have so many venues. Book it and be happy. 

Post # 22
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9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would be so excited to attend a wedding at my venue! Friends of ours are actually getting married there 2 weeks after us and I really wish we could go.

I wouldn’t worry about this at all.

Post # 23
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6303 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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futureseh:  Choose whatever venue you want. No one owns a venue, and honestly it’ll be so far apart from their wedding as long as your decor is different I bet no one will notice. We got married at the same venue as our friends only two weeks apart – and my DH was the best man in their wedding and he was a groomsman in ours. Our decor and use of space was VERY different, and our guest list didn’t really overlap either. 

Post # 24
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2758 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Just book it! I’d be happy to see what friends do with the venue I chose – I bet it will still be unique since you’ll be adding your own colors, personal touches, etc. 

Post # 25
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

it depends on you and your guest list…

as a guest honestly if I had attended a wedding there and you jumped on it, rushed out and booked the same thing it would feel ‘copy cat-y’ just from how its done (not if it was 2 seperate friend groups that happened to book the same venue) however if you dont have the same guest it wouldnt matter at all and if you do have lots of the same guest then it comes down to you and how YOU feel about that, are you ok with people saying you copied?

I could see the bride being mad if she showed you and you rushed out and booked it before her wedding in an attempt to ‘get in first’ but really its your wedding day so if its what you want go for it, your friend doesnt own the place and cant stop you so doesnt need to be ‘asked’

Post # 26
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I’m having my reception at the club my family belongs to, and so has almost every other girl who group up a member there.  A nice venue is a nice venue, and everyone does something different with it.

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