Post # 1
I got engaged in December and was extremely excited. My fiance and I had been together for the past 4 years and we are finally ready to get maried and then start a family.
We decided to start looking at reception locations immidiatly and found our dream location at a wonderful country club that was exactly US!!! They even had a number of dates available this summer so we jumped on July 9th, 2011 because it worked with our schedules and time off. We couldn’t be happier with our time and date choice. We don’t want to wait a year and a half to get married so this summer seemed perfect.
When I told two of my bridesmaids my plans and date picked, they seemed shocked that I would have the audacity to get married so soon. They even managed to make me cry
They seemed to think I wouldn’t get everything I wanted because I would be doing this so quickly. I explained to them the reasons why we didn’t want to wait, and that we allready found the location, DJ, photogrpaher already and were well on our way to getting things moving right along.
Am I crazy for getting married this fast? This seems so doable to myself and everyone else exept these two bridesmaids. Maybe I just overreacted to their concern??
Post # 3
6 months is plenty of time. How did they manage to make you cry? Are they usually that judgmental?
Post # 4
It’s probably going to be slightly more difficult, but you’ll be fine! I’ve been engaged for about six months now, and pretty much everything I’ve done so far except for some DIY projects could have been done in a few days of concentrated wedding productivity. I would skip the Save-The-Date Cards because they’re a huge time sink and take maybe two days off work to visit all your vendors. If you can, try to book them all asap. You’ll be fine, try not to let them get you down!
Post # 5
You can totally do it! You already have a lot of the things that often need to be booked further in advance. Six months is a good amount of time. Tell your bridesmaids to stuff it or they can’t be bridesmaids.
Post # 6
Don’t feel bad for it – it’s plenty of time and you already have the hardest parts picked out. You’re ready to start your married life together, and start a family, and that’s the mindest you need to be in. A lot of people get wrapped up in the wedding details and the wedding itself and forget about what really makes wedding is not all the little things that go into it, it’s you and your fiance. So best of luck to you and try to brush off what they say.
Post # 7
Y do they care? They can’t order a dress in that time?
Post # 8
You can definitely plan a wedding in 6-7 months if you’re willing to “plan hard” from the get-go! It’s shorter than many engagements, but it shouldn’t raise eyebrows, people do it all the time. Not sure at all why your friends would get on your case about it.
Post # 9
I had a girlfriend get married in 4 months time, I think you should be able to pull it off in 6 months!
Post # 10
You can totally do it! I got engaged in November and I’m getting married in May! I’m sorry that your friends haven’t been that supportive or happy about it. Please try to brush what they have said off and keep on with your planning. 🙂
Post # 11
It sounds like you are really on top of the planning, and if you and your fiance are happy about the time-frame you’ve set for yourselves, that’s truly the important part. It’s about the two of you and your wishes for your special day, not the bridesmaids’ wishes. I’m sorry that they responded like that to your happy news–don’t let it get you down though!
My grandparents were only engaged for a couple of hours (they eloped 🙂 ) and their parents were pretty mad, but they’ve been happily married for over 60 years. It’s really all just what works for your situation.
Are you particularly tight with these two bridesmaids, and could there be some underlying emotional stuff going on? Often weddings bring out the extremes in people, and they may fear that you’re going to be in a totally different place in life from here on and it will damage the friendship. On the other hand, if you’ve been with your fiance for four years, they’ve had plenty of time to get used to your relationship and may just be jealous/insecure.
I got engaged mid-February of 2010 (not the 14th, but close enough that everyone joked about it!) and married in September 2010, with pretty much a month off in July (I was working roughly 15-hour days, all I had time for was registering for stuff). It is totally doable.
I would recommend choosing your dress sooner rather than later–I selected my dress with maybe four months to spare and I heard all kinds of horror stories about people who ordered their dress long in advance and it didn’t come til after the wedding! Mine made it in plenty of time, but I had a couple of back-up ideas just in case (Running of the Brides, off-the-rack, make one out of t-shirts!).
Post # 12
I am having a 9month engagement and I’m an out of town bride. I’m not stressing the deets. It’s 5months out and I still don’t have a lot of stuff like my dress but it will come out okay in the end. I do have the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses though and the big ones. Venue, photog, dj etc.
Post # 13
They might just be using those as excuses as they might not have the money for all the things they’ll need to pay for for your wedding in such a short time.
Post # 14
Its totally do-able, but it means you need to take care of some things ASAP – like your dress and bridesmaids dresses. Wedding dresses can take 6 months to come in and you need to have them altered. Bridesmaids dresses take 3 months to come in, but you want to give your girls 3-4 weeks to get their dresses altered.
If you have a lot of out of town guests, you might want to spread the word now or send save the dates so they can start looking into travel arrangements.
What did your BM’s say to make you cry? Were they concerned about their financial situations as it relates to paying for things? Or something else?
Post # 15
It’s totally doable! In fact, I think that not only is it doable, it may be more efficient. Less time means you won’t have much time to second-guess decisions and dwell on things that are not as important. Sometimes I wish I’d have less time because it would force me to be more efficient in my time-management. Remember, in the grand scheme of things it’s just a big party and you can totally plan a wonderful, big party in 6 months!
Post # 16
6 months is a perfectly acceptable time-frame (I’ve known several people to get married in 6 months or less who have had amazing weddings). You are not crazy. Try not to let the comments bother you. This is what you and your fiance want. Just remember that.