(Closed) Getting married = less partying??

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Marriage = less partying?
    I'll pull it in a little, because I want to : (24 votes)
    59 %
    I'll stop partying because he wants me to : (1 votes)
    2 %
    No way, I know how to party responsibly already- and I love to party! : (16 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    definitely! just remember to be respectful of your FH (well not you specifically, ya know!). For instance, if I would be upset knowing Fiance danced with some random drunk girl, I’d be more careful not to dance with a random drunk guy. Wink doesn’t mean you can’t check em out though!

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    “allowed” buahahaha if he ever tried to dictate me using such words I’d laugh in his face. Not a chance son. But that’s how it’s always been so I won’t be changing one way or the other…

    Post # 6
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    1359 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    @kingytobe: agreed 🙂 I don’t think I’ve ever blacked out..if I did, I don’t remember it! lol. I’ve ended up on the floor at a bar though. that was interesting.

    Post # 7
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    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Yes, to the going out with girlfriends. I think it’s just about being respectful to your spouse to not go out a lot (like every Saturday night) to party.  I mean, seriously, most people go to clubs to “hook up.” Yes, there are people that will argue that they love to dance, etc etc (exceptions to every rule), but the loud music isn’t conducive to talking. Basically, there are better places to hang out with your girlfriends, i.e where single guys don’t think you’re there to be hit on.  Movies, restaurants, wine bars… I also think drinking till you black out is a little much…

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    getting married=no change to girls night

    moving to the suburbs=end of girls night

    Post # 9
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    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Getting married no change to girls night

    Getting older change to girls night, lol can’t party as much as used to it

    Post # 10
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’m not much of a partier, but I wouldn’t say marriage has changed my behavior. Getting to be an “old woman” who loves going to bed at 10pm has, haha. And moving away from my best friends in the relocation to get married has changed me some, because I just don’t have close girlfriends here yet.

    But marriage isn’t supposed to be about changing who you are – it’s supposed to be about finding someone who will help make you a better version of you, exactly the way you are! So no, I don’t think you should change your ways just because you’re getting married.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @ellabee: oh my god. so so so true. Now that I live 40 mins away from my girlfriends, I hardly see them. It’s got nothing to do with being married, but a whole lot to do with me being too lazy to drive downtown! 

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Sassygrn:yeah, that’s true, too!

    @ twist  I know, right?

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @ddw:Getting to be an “old woman” who loves going to bed at 10pm has, haha. And moving away from my best friends in the relocation to get married has changed me some, because I just don’t have close girlfriends here yet.

    This is exactly where I am right now!

    Post # 14
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    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’ve definitely toned down my partying, but that happened while we were still dating, not just after we got married. Once you have someone you love waiting at home for you, it’s harder to get the motivation to go out, spend lots of money, and try and scream a conversation with your friends over loud music and avoid other guys grabbing you. I’ve much preferred nights at home with friends over for drinks or quiet wine bars than going OUT out. 

    Post # 15
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Sassygrn:  hahaha, you hit the nail on the head!  Damn this age thing – hangovers take twice as long to recover from and are so much nastier as you get older!  Fortunately, the idea of going out and getting drunk also massively loses its appeal at the same time.  

    Girls nights have evolved from late nights out dancing/getting drunk to quieter nights filled with girly conversation over a few bottles of wine.  I don’t see anything changing once I’m actually married…. and once kids come along, forget it, I might be upping girls’ night frequency from once a month to once a week!  🙂

    Post # 16
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    433 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think you should be able o go out and have a good time still. I do, and we party together more, the closer we become as a couple. His friends will inite me to go out with the guys actually. And my friends love him as well so they never mind if he tags along. We still make sure to have our personal space too though, that’s important!

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