Post # 1
The to the point question of this thread is for those that are divorced and about to remarry (or hope to one day), would getting married in the same “wedding month” as your first marriage was be a no go for you, or not a thought? Would it make a difference if that month seemed to work well for you for other reasons? Or would you just try to avoid it at all costs regardless (11 other months to choose from after all!)? I’m personally torn, while my fiance says he doesn’t mind, for some reason it gives me an icky feeling. But then again I’m like why should it matter as long as it’s not the exact same date? But it’s like I’m trying to convince myself. Still trying to work out whether my hesitations are rational or not.
Post # 2
I personally wasn’t keen on getting married in the same month the second time around. It was 50% I felt weird about it and 50% that it wasn’t a super desirable month to begin with. I think if my 1st wedding had been in a desirable wedding time like say fall in New England I would have learned more towards just doing it the same month especially if my fiance didn’t care.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t even think twice about it. Same DATE? Maybe…. Same month – nah.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2019 - San Antonio, TX
I just got married 3 weeks ago. My first wedding was also in July. I felt a little weird about it at first and then I decided that I wasn’t going to let the failure of my first marriage impact my wedding to the man I should have been with all along!
Everything was so different this time, the month didn’t matter.
Post # 5
The same month would not even cross my mind. The same date probably would.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
I avoided the month of my previous marriage. However I ended up getting married on August 18th and September 18th. Haha. If my dream venue or other situation made the same month necessary I’d do it. Picking a different season will give this wedding a feel all it’s own.
Post # 7
repeating months wouldn’t bother me… but colors, style of wedding dress, and overall “feel” of the event would.
Post # 8
evelyn3thyme : Both my husband and I were divorced when we met. We arranged our wedding date according to when long distance loved ones were already travelling here, it just worked out that it wasn’t either of our previous wedding months but I honestly wouldn’t have cared if it was. I can see the exact date being a little weird but other than that I wouldn’t put any significance in the month itself.
If however this is going to be something that you’re going to be aware of, I suggest you choose a different month so it’s not a concern. Just because it’s a non-issue for me doesn’t mean your own feelings aren’t valid so if it’s easier to just avoid that month, go ahead and do what works best for you.
Post # 9
Wouldn’t bother me in the least.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
I would not. First wedding was July. This wedding was June. Only 3 weeks apart, but needed to be a different month!
Post # 11
I don’t think it matters. My first wedding was in February and my second in October. But I didn’t purposely avoid the month.
Post # 12
Being the same month wouldn’t bother me at all, the month wasn’t special the day was, same day would be a no go for me. I’ve has to say no to an available date cause it was ex’s birthday haha
Post # 13
I mean if it makes you feel icky don’t do it? I probably wouldn’t think of it, but I’m not you. You do you.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2019 - Tacoma, WA
I got married in the same month, and it didn’t even cross my mind that it might be weird.
Post # 15
Yes I did think about it and I didn’t do it because it just didn’t feel right to me. Got married in a different month. But honestly, it’s just a personal preference. If you feel weird about it, don’t do it, and if you don’t feel weird then who cares! Do what makes you comfortable.