Getting married soon; how to tell parents not to text me as much?

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 31
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8168 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Kelsih11 :  

Well living at home as an  adult and being fine  with your parents knowing all your business has kind of taught them the habits they have now .  

Try and avoid saying things like “I want to focus on my marriage and my husband,” which can sound ( sorry ) rather  laughably self important and and bit akin to a child’s “l am a big girl now ” 

You will find you do not have to make any great effort to ‘focus ‘on marriage and your husband  –  you are living it , it’s not  some arduous  task . Plus you don’t cease to be a daughter because  you married someone . Just , as pps  have said , answer those  texts you want to  and not  the others. When questioned , say you were busy or didn’t notice . It will fade  to a normal rate soon enough.

Post # 32
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1365 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

I wouldn’t be so quick to rock the boat just yet. These are words that if misconstrued, could alter the great family dynamic you guys seem to have. Right now I’m sure you’re busy with wedding planning and excited to be more independent with your fiance, but soon enough you might get lonely and miss those texts. If you don’t want all the notifications you can just mute it and not respond as much. Who knows, once you’re out of the house you may end up actually posting more since you can’t say all the small silly things to each other in person!

Post # 33
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763 posts
Busy bee

Do you have a job? (I dont mean that in a bad way), its fine if you dont. If you do, let them know you don’t have your phone with you while at work or that you get busy. 

The “MUTE” button is great, too – answer them when you can. I think you may be making this into a bigger deal than it needs to be. 

Post # 34
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My family has this group that we all in including all the spouse. We used it for random chit chat here and there and it is fun. Just put it in mute and respond anytime you can, they’ll understand =)

Post # 35
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

To be honest there could be worse things than getting texts from your family….even if it is in a group chat. Some people don’t have the luxury of getting texts from their parents. If it bothers you that much just ask to be removed.

Post # 36
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Helper bee

I’m confused. Why can’t you just remove yourself from the group chats and respond to the texts you deem to be important? 

There’s no reason to make a production out of getting married and focusing on your husband. If your family is very close, I don’t think that they will take that very well so I would strongly advice against that. 

 

Post # 37
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

silent the group chat… you will only get notified of their texts when you open the app. And I don’t see why having a chat group would make you focus less on your marriage.

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