(Closed) Getting married this Summer but not engaged?!?!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d be kinda annoyed if my guy was talking about getting married THIS summer, but he hadn’t yet proposed and was asking me not to talk about the wedding. It’s a little unfair to you (in my opinion) to toss out the idea of getting married tihs summer without actually backing it up. 

I hope he makes his move quickly!! Maybe on vacation? fingers crossed.

Post # 4
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Good luck, keep us posted. Who knows what his plans are, I just hope he’s not stringing you along to keep you happy and stay off his back. Fingers crossed

Post # 7
3220 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Last October, my SO and I had been talking about getting married this summer.  I told him that I needed 6 months to prepare for a wedding, mostly to get invitations out on time– plus we’re Catholic so we’d need to do 6 months of preparation with our church. 

We’re not engaged yet, but I have a feeling it’s coming soon.  I move out of state for graduate school in August, and he wants to be married before we live together, so his options are limited! I haven’t brought it up since November– we had a few open discussions of it and then I stepped back.  Pressuring him will only put stress on our relationship, and I’m happy just being with him. 

We’re going on a trip this weekend– we’re LDR so we see each other every other week– including fancy dinners and whatnot, so of course part of me is wondering! But if he doesn’t propose, it will sitll be an amazing trip and I’ll have a wonderful time.  I think if you leave a trip or special day “disappointed” that you didn’t come away with a ring, you’re not approaching a relationship the right way.  

(Edit: I mean that last part in a “general advice” sort of way– from your replies you seem very level-headed about the process!)

Post # 8
229 posts
Helper bee

This sounds just like me!– I would love a minimal wedding, but I do want enough time to actually enjoy being engaged and planning things. On the other hand, I secretly wonder if SO feels like he can be laid back about the proposal because I’m laid back about the wedding?

Also, don’t forget Leap Day for your list! I am now totally in love with the idea of a February 29th proposal πŸ™‚

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