(Closed) Getting married twice in a week?!?!

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

IMO I would do something nice to remember your grandmother at your wedding on the 15th rather than have an extra ceremony earlier that week just so you can share the same wedding date. There are a lot of lovely ways to incorporate photos or stories of the people you love into a wedding, and that way all of your guests will be able to remember and honour them too.

Post # 5
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t know, I think I agree with linguo42 in that there are many ways to honor your grandparents at your wedding, without the complications of two marriages in one week. And all so you can say you have the same date as your grandparents?

If it truly means that much to you then ultimately it is your special day and you may do as you please. I think it would be lovely to honor them at your wedding on the 15th though, and you have plenty of time to think of unique ways to do so!

Post # 6
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I like the idea, and I think it’s really sweet that you want to honour your grandma this way, but I think people would be kind of turned off when they arrive at a wedding and then it’s announced that you essentially had a wedding 5 days earlier. Why not just plan to get legally married on the 10th and have a quiet dinner celebrating it with family but without too much fanfare, and then have a “commitment ceremony” and wedding reception on the 15th for all the rest of your guests?

My Fiance and I have to get legally married 5 days before our wedding due to circumstances we can’t control… but we’re not celebrating it at all. For us, it is the religious ceremony that is the important one and when we truly become husband and wife. What you are doing here is having two whole wedding celebrations, one of which is rather exclusive (only close family), and you are keeping it secret until the day of, which I do not think people would appreciate.

Post # 7
3121 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@DeathByDesign:  I like this idea.  I went to a wedding where we were all just invited to the reception and the ceremony was much smaller.  No one minded!  The invite just said “Please join us for a reception honoring __ & ____’s marriage.”  I say you get hitched, not in secret but with close friends, on the 10th and have a party on the 15th.  As a guest, I would be irked if I didn’t know what was going on and was only invited to some fake ceremony. 

Post # 9
972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s a nice idea to have the same wedding date, but you are two separate people and couples. I don’t think you need to be so caught up with what your grandparents were doing. HOWEVER, I understand the sentiment and it IS very romantic and sweet so if you must have it on 9/10, why not have the ceremony with only your parents? I’m just thinking that people are going to say, “ok why am I going to two of her weddings, in a single week?” and furthermore having 20 people (it’s more than it sounds!) might make the guests at the formal reception wedding feel left out, but making the first wedding super exclusive might eliminate that. I like deathbydesigns idea as well. 

Post # 11
1461 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I like MilksMom‘s idea. We’re getting married on a Wednesday morning in a small ceremony with just close friends and family and then having a biger reception that evening. This is pretty common in our area though. A big reason for this date is that it’s Fiance grandparent’s (the grandfather he is named after) anniversary. 

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