Post # 1
My fiance and I have been together for four years next month. We have planned on getting married for a while and he proposed last month! 🙂 We both finished our bachelors degree, but I am starting to work on my masters next summer. My school is about four hours from him and he can not move because he has a good job. We want to get married, but not sure we want to have a long distance marriage. There is also the issue of having a one income wedding. He is 26 and I am 24 . I know it is not too long, but I would rather not wait. He is more practical about life decisions and doesnt think it is reasonable for two people to get married when they can’t live together. I am more of a risk taker and think we should just jump right in and be together. He is the love of my life and my best friend and I am so excited to marry him! Both of our families are hoping we get married sooner rather than later because they are also excited. They are willing to help out with a lot of the expenses too. Is getting married during school unreasonable?
Post # 3
i am still in school. i think its just a sacrafice you may have to make. i waitress 5 days a week and go to school full time. fi works full time, and while we could make it on his salary alone, i want the kind of wedding that i want, and i like to go out and go shopping etc. so i work as well. anyways, i dont think its unreasonable, you just have to find a balance 🙂
Post # 4
Is there a way you can move half way?
Another option: While my FH is able to move to whatever city I end up in for my graduate and postgraduate work, I know a couple where the husband works in a college town 2-3 hours south of here and the wife drives the distance between everyday to go my university (who has a better program for her.) I have a professor who does the same thing but she lives in a college town 4 hours in the oppossite direction. It’s a pain but if it’s finacially feasible you wouldn’t have to pay rent on two places (just the gas to drive back and forth).
Post # 5
Do you have to go full time in your graduate program? I am getting my MBA right now but my classes are only at night so I work a full time job too. If not, I agree about considering living halfway in between since you probably won’t be able to support two households on only one income.
Post # 6
online classes or weekend classes can save you!
Post # 7
I have several friends who got married while in college long distance – not one of them graduated. It’s hard enough being in a relationship ldr, but marriage? I’d wait it out. We were in an LDR for 5 years, and are finally getting married in January (now that we’re NOT LDR)
Post # 8
Thanks for the input everyone!!
I never really considered living half way before because I thought it would be too far. Now that I think about it, saving the double rent payments would easily make up for gas. I will have to look into whether or not this is possible..great idea though!
Part time grad school would work really well, but we have to go full time for physician assistant studies..and the classes are not as flexible. I am glad I found this website, so nice to get opinions from different people!
Post # 9
@afbacher: I have also heard similar stories to this..did you two have a long engagement or did you wait until you were not long distance?
Post # 10
My Fiance is in NY (where he moved when his family came to the US) in nursing school and working full-time at a hospital and I live in TN and am in undergrad for pre-med and I work full-time as a correctional officer at a prison. We will be married next year while I am in school. It is possible to get married while in school but can be stressful and requires a lot of time and work you may not have.
Post # 11
I’m still in school and he’s in the army. We aren’t getting married for a year but when we do I will still be in school in florida for another year and he will be back at his base in upstate new york. So basically we won’t get to see eachother. It’s not ideal, but I can’t wait to call him my husband even if it means we can’t live together for the first year of our marraige. I mean, either way you have to live apart, so just do what you’re comfortable with. And honestly, an hour isn’t that bad. You could see each other every single weekend. I realize that is still not an ideal marriage set up, but it’s not ideal for a relationship in general either. Also, the half way idea is a really awesome Idea!