Post # 32
@Barbiestylez: you asked “what would you prefer instead?” i think everyone’s answer would be different. If someone was going to spend $100 on a gift for me, i would love one or some combination of the below:
– a cute athletic tank or loungewear that I could work out in later ~$30 (the robe is the one thing I like out of your list)
– hiking socks! ~$15 (yes, seriously. This is what Future Mother-In-Law buys me for holidays and I looooooove them)
– an nice piece of jewelry that I’m not allergic to and I would absolutely love to wear again. But this person would have to know me really well. Maybe a gift card to a fancy jeweler would be better for ~$100
– a gift card to starbucks or local spa (I love coffee and pedicures)! ~$50
– a ticket or pass to something adventure-y (think crazy… Hot air balloon ride, a one year zoo pass, lift ticket to a local mountain, voucher for one night at a B and B in the mountains….)
– travel comforts (silk eye cover sleeping thing for the plane, day pass for the airline lounge, something I would enjoy but not splurge on myself)
– rei gift card (This is the only place Fiance and I registered btw)
But clearly these are not things you’d buy for your girls.. Because they’re not me. I think if you were to take the money and buy one meaningful thing for each girl, that would be awesome. Ask yourself “what would she love that she wouldn’t splurge on normal…?” I’m not a big fan of all matcha gifts… But some people are! like others have said – you know your girls best.
Post # 33
You are a very generous bride! I would be ecstatic with your choices.
Here’s what I recommend which may save you some money but also add that personal element that people are telling you is missing.
-Drop the setting spray (not really needed)
-Maybe drop the lip gloss (although I love MAC and I think it’s a nice touch)
-Drop the flip flops (What if they’re not comfortable? Comfy heels can be easier to dance in than uncomfortable flip flop. Maybe just advise the girls to bring flat shoes that are comfortable for dancing later on.)
-Maybe drop the robes (but I do love the robes, so I think that depends on what you think your BMs want)
-Include a framed photo of yourself and your Bridesmaid or Best Man, or a group photo or something. Make sure it’s a cute frame in a colour or style that each of them like so they can reuse the frame if they wish. Write each Bridesmaid or Best Man a personal and heartfelt card.
-Maybe also add one of their favourite chocolates or candies because who doesn’t like sweets!
Post # 34
I’d love jewelry I want in colors and styles I like, gift cert to my favorite stores or for my interests (gift cert for amazon kindle books, Williams sonoma, zappos, Stella and dot, a cooking class, etc.), clutch I want (for instance I have a black clutch, but could use certain other colors), a nice shawl in a color I want, mini-album of pics of us together. Or even just a really nice thought-out note.
I know some others would love being treated to a massage or spa service (just not my thing).
Post # 35
I got an Urban Decay “Up All Night” setting spray for $5 at Nordstrom Rack!! You could take a peek there if you wanted to get them that 🙂
Post # 36
Adorable lots of cute ideas!
If you want to “cut back” cost I’d probably leave out the lip gloss and makeup setting spray
Post # 37
@Barbiestylez: for my girls I got them each what I would for their birthdays. I did get them all matching robes and a makeup bag stuffed with makeup and VS gift cards but I also got them each $60-100 gift cards to their favorite stores. I tried to make it personal. I paid for some wedding related things but I just don’t consider that a gift.
Post # 38
I think it’s a good haul. Obviously it’s for the wedding but a bunch of it could still be used after. I would be happy as your bridesmaid.
Post # 39
You’re so generous 🙂 I love most of the ideas, but I would cut out the makeup and the flip flops. They probably have comfy shoes they can bring, and you are already paying for their makeup. I would also cut the clutches…I gave my girls clutches, and it turns out that none of them liked them and definitely haven’t used them after the wedding.
I like the robes and the jewellry. Honestly, if I was in a wedding I would be happy to get those things. I’ve only ever gotten necklaces as a bridesmaid gifts, so a beautiful robe would be icing on the cake. Maybe you could get them a small personal gift as well, like a perfume they love or a book or something.
Post # 40
Ok from all the feedback, I will most likely do the necklace, earrings, clutch, robes, & a 30-40$ gift card to each BMs favorite store. I will also write a heartfelt card to each and send each a framed photo of us after the wedding. Does that sound better?
Post # 41
@Barbiestylez: that sounds awesome!!! I would be really happy to receive all of that . Even if one or two things aren’t exactly my style, it still shows a lot of effort and time.
Post # 42
i love those flip flops! and I would be verryyyy happy to recieve all of this!
Post # 43
@Barbiestylez: sounds good as long as you’re not upset if some ladies give away (or don’t wear) the earrings, necklace, clutch, or robe after the wedding. I did have one bride ask me a few times if I’d worn her pink, blingy formal bridesmaid dress after the wedding and it was awkward (not my style at all but I happily wore it for her on the day of). And you know your friends’ taste best, maybe they’ll like the wedding day gear or see it as a present.
Post # 44
@Shkragoldfish: Oh I totally understand!! I will not be offended:)
Post # 45
Don’t listen to the nay-sayers.
That is absolutely more than enough. I doubt any of your girls are in your wedding because they are expecting a gift. I would be overly gracious for the things that you have chosen.
Post # 46
@Barbiestylez: perfect then because I think the other items you mentioned are great gifts.