(Closed) Getting my cat a brother

posted 7 years ago in Pets
  • poll: Should we get a second cat?
    Yes : (21 votes)
    88 %
    No : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Other (please comment) : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 4
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    I had pretty much the exact same problem with my cat, Binx. I contemplated getting a 2nd cat after a year of getting him because he was very clingy, vocal and following me everywhere, like I was tripping over him everytime I walked around. But I was also hesistant because I’m also in a 2 bdrm apartment-style thats not the biggest. I finally caved, though, and brought a tiny female kitten home (I worked at a vet clinic for 2 years, so it was bound to happen). He let off for awhile because he was so engrossed in the little one, though kept a very close eye on them since it’s common for a male to want to kill young kittens. 

    It’s been another year since I brought home Doomie. I don’t regret it as I love her to bits and she’s quite unique (though very mischevious), but there has been a couple cons, 

    1. They’re both vocal. Mostly only in the AM when I have to feed them or when I step through the door coming home.

    2. Binx is less clingy, but not as much as I would have hoped (he is RIGHT beside me as i’m typing this). He still follows me around sometimes.

    3. More hair to deal with, more litter to clean up and buy and also more food to buy.

    Tread carefully, my friend. It might work better if you bring home a full grown cat that has already established its traits and not a kitten that will learn from your cat.

    Post # 7
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    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My Fiance was the one that talked me into getting cats, I was going to wait until I had more room and more money. I’m in an efficiency (yes, that means everything in one room but the bathroom) and I have two cats, ages 1 and 3. They were in the same area at the shelter so they knew each other, and they are buddies- they love each other. But they’re so friendly I think they’d love any cat. I love knowing that when I’m gone they have each other for company, and they play and cuddle all the time. The extra fur, food, and litterbox cleaning (I do it even more with such a small space) doesn’t phase me at all, I love them both so much and I’m glad I got two. (I voted yes if you couldn’t tell, lol)

    ETA: Oh, and Miko, the white and brown one, is super cuddly- always wants to be in my lap or in my arms. He cuddles in my arms at night. Gator, the brown tiger, isn’t cuddly so it’s not an issue. They don’t make too much noise at night anymore, though they did at first- I just taught them not to.

    Post # 9
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I know this probably isn’t what you want to hear and might be long, but I feel compelled…

    I decided I wanted another cat as a companion for the exact same reasons. Fiance had had his cat for 10 years (he’s 11 now), and he was EXTREMELY vocal, clingy, and downright non stop complaining if someone was home and not petting him. We love him to bits, but when I did at home schooling it got to be too much. He had lived with several other cats in past few years, of all genders… so we decided to get him a friend.

    We went to the humane society and picked him out a super sweet male cat of comparable size (they are both males and huge, 20+ pounds or so). The new cat was 6 years old.

    We brought them home and followed the recommendations of gradually introducing them, etc. Since then, both cats have developed territorial issues of urinating/defecating on the floor, our clothes, anything the other one touches. The new cat just wants to play but our older cat HATES him and refuses. Fights ensue. We bought Feliway (a cat hormone diffuser, similar to a glade plug in, that is supposed to help cats get along… extremely expensive) to help them get along. It reduced the amount of urination and fights, but after a year and a half of living together, they still don’t like each other. They still fight and have litterbox issues.

    Older cat previously never had peeing issues, ever.

    If I could go back in time, I would have just dealt with his loneliness or only gotten another cat if I could have returned it to a breeder or something if they didn’t get along. But now we are stuck with two cats who hate each other, and I can’t in good consciousness send him back to the humane society where he will probably get killed. So, I would seriously consider if your cat’s loneliness is bad enough that you can’t deal with the worst case scenario (your house smelling like cat pee for life and two cats that hate each other), unless you can find a flexible way to see if they get along and return the other if they do not.

    I thought we were doing my older cat a favour in easing his loneliness… but now he’s just miserable.

    PS. He is MUCH less vocal with another cat around though. I would still do anything to go back and deal with excessive meowing than the issues we have now.

    Post # 10
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    4024 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think it could be helpful…. but also could be dangerous! I know that my cat is like that too, vocal, has to be with you, etc, but having another cat didn’t help her at all, its more like her personality. Your cat seems super mellow though. Would it let you put a harness on it and go for walks? Might sound crazy, but when we let our cat go outside, she has so much fun and when she comes in, she is way more quiet and mellow. Its like she just needs a little change in her day to chill her out, and some extra exercise!

    We also got a dog though (which prob wouldn’t work in your situation), and she is a little more mellow since he came home, so having a companion may help too. Sorry I’m not much help!

    Post # 11
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    @Rosie Girl: I actually second this!! We started letting our newer cat outside (within fenced yard only under supervision) and it does seem to help his boredom which he normally releases by trying to play with the cat that doesn’t want to, knocking things over, etc. This seems to help their relationship a small amount since the new cat doesn’t bug the old cat as much.

    @bestbuddies: Maybe try putting a harness on him and letting him walk around the house with it a bunch for a couple weeks til he gets used to it (he’ll probably hate it at first). When he’s used to it, try him out with it in a confined area without a leash til he’s used to that. Then try walking him with the leash. I do think taking him outdoors supervised will help him see outside of his world and perhaps ease his lonelies…

     

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @bestbuddies: It didn’t take much, actually. I just made sure my sleeping pattern was consistent, I played with them a lot during the day and cuddled and pet them at night, if they made a ton of noise I would physically separate them from each other or whatever was making noise. They also don’t like when I raise my voice at them, thought that was from teaching them not to scratch my furniture (apparently scratching posts just aren’t as fun as couches!), so sometimes just saying their names threateningly helps. Their toys are noisy, it’s really just when they get hyper and run all over. They still do sometimes, but they seem to know that when I turn out the last light it means quiet time. They’re good cats 🙂

    I know some cats just don’t get along with other cats, so it’s up to you to judge if you think your cat would be friendly or not. My cats are super loveable, with people and cats and probably anything else. Except moths, haha.

    Post # 13
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    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    @bestbuddies:  For a while, they were really bad once Doomie got a bit bigger. They’re not as bad anymore, I hear them every once in a while. It may be because Doomie is only a year old and still hyperactive at times… If you can find a more laid-back cat, that might help big time!

    Post # 15
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    822 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    we started off with one cat and then i said, “fancy needs a brother/sister so she’s not bored when we’re at work.” we got a cat and they tolerated each other.  fancy kept aria in check.  we soon found out aria was dying (she was less than a year old) and started peeing, pooping, and puking all over the house.  each time she would have an accident, fancy would walk up to her and hit her on the head.  it was like she was saying, “don’t do that.” after we put aria down, we saw fancy grieve.  she went searching for aria in the extra bedroom where she used to hide and she would walk around downstairs by herself in the middle of the night and cry.

    so i told bf that we should probably get another cat to help fancy get over missing aria.  tasha is a little older than fancy and although she is smaller, she doesn’t let fancy boss her around.  tasha hisses at fancy and they chase each other around the house.  they are not buddies but they tolerate each other.

    my sister’s cats on the other hand (although not biological siblings but grew up together) are best buds.  they groom each other.  it’s so cute.

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