Post # 1
Tonight after work I will be picking up my new kitten! His name is Oliver and his is adorable! I am sooo excited but Boyfriend or Best Friend is pretty hesitant. Have any of you ever brought a kitten home to their SO who wasn’t so excited but now loves their new kitty or at least has learned to get along with him? How did you get the two to become friends? Also, what did you do to adjust your kitty to your new home? I have bought some toys and other things to keep kitty entertained but would love to hear other ideas. Any other advice would be much appreciated!
Post # 3
Um, my husband hates cats. When he got deployed, i told him i was getting two. He said, “TWO?! WHY?!?!?!” and i said, “cuz i want them”. And i ran out and got a himalayan and a shorthair exotic. And I LOOOOOVE them to pieces =]
But he says he likes “soft things” (flowers for Algernon anyone? lol) And next thing you know, kitty’s rubbing his ankle and he bends down to pet him, then next thing you konw he’s picking them up and then they’re snugglign on the couch. Now, he grabs the kitty before bed and we stick him under the sheets between us for a snuggle and purr before bed. So, it takes time, but that cat will win over his heart. THey’re just too damn cute.
As far as acclamating a cat, they say to put kittens in a smaller area–a whole house can be overwhelming. I kept Sambi in my bedroom for 3 days before i let him explore the apartment, but only with me present. Same with the house when I moved–I would barricade off the hallway and bedroom for a couple weeks before i let them have full reign without my supervision.
Also get some scratchers or Oliver may like your furniture a little TOO much.
I have proof =]
Post # 4
OMG!!! They are ADORABLE! I think he is coming around but for 2 years he told me that he was allergic (yeah sure…) So I hope that he does come around. Looks like your SO and those kittays are pretty good friends. My Boyfriend or Best Friend also SWEARS they will not be sleeping in our bed. We will see…
Post # 5
My fiance and I got a kitten a few months ago. He wasn’t thrilled with the idea at first, never having had pets growing up, but he gave in because I really wanted one. Now I think he likes the cat more than he likes me! He is constantly playing with her and petting her and paying attention to her. Your guy will come around!
Post # 6
I would give your guy a chance to get to know the cat on his own. Bring Oliver home, but don’t bring him over to your guy, men like to figure things out on their own time. don’t give Oliver the full reign of the house and let your guy warm up to him at his own pace. Play with Oliver around him. Why? Cause he will see how cute he is and want to join in on the fun. Kittens are pretty hard to resist.
@ejs4y8 my Fiance does the SAME THING with our cat Elmo, he pulls her under the covers every morning for snuggle time. I swear he loves that cat more than me 😉
Post # 7
When we got our cat, my FH was very nervous. He only had one pet growing up, like when he was a little kid – and none since (he’s in his 40’s now!). It took that kitten all of about 10 seconds to have FH totally wrapped around her little finger (err, little claw).
Both our vet and the shelter recommended keeping her in one room, or other sort of confined area for the first few days, so she doesn’t get too overwhelmed at first. Our house has 2 stories, and we cordoned off the upstairs, so she couldn’t get up there. The first about day and a half, we mostly kept her in the guest room, unless we were right with her in the other rooms.
Post # 8
I know!!!! haha =]. I <3 my boys.
Oh trust me, for 27 years Darling Husband has adamantly hated cats. He would always tell me I’d NEVER be allowed to have cats. They’re EVIL and he HATES them and they’re mean and stupid and why would you get a cat when you can get a dog?
Now they’re cool. He’ll bring me a kitty when i’m just laying on the couch for me to snuggle with. It’s really sweet. I’m not sure he loves them like I do but they live together peacefully and he gives them attention. He does fuss about the hair sometimes and makes me furminate them and reminds me to clean the box every day. As long as you keep kitty from being stinky, it should help keep some of the negativity away.
Oh! I did want to tell you that when Dh was home while i was working, I had HIM give them a can of food every day. I think it helped get my cats used to him and started seeing him in a positive way. So if you have your Boyfriend or Best Friend feed the kitties, the kitties will reciprocate with positive attention.
Mine don’t really sleep on the bed–he does get annoyed with that and honestly, there just isn’t really enough room unless they are at the VERY foot of the bed. They get kicked when we move our feet around and prefer couches and chairs. They like to climb up on Saturday mornings and make biscuits on us to wake us up. It’s cute though.
Post # 9
Fiance seemed sort of indifferent about getting cats. I’ve always loved cats and finally when we got an apartment that let us have them, I wanted to adopt right away. He was like “wait till after spring break. we’ll be gone for a week for spring break. Wait till after then” So I waited and waited and the weekend after spring break I think is when we picked up the little buggers. They were 12 weeks old (brother and sister) when we got them. We have a 2 bed 2 bath apartment so our spare bedroom is “the kitten room.” It was a couple days before we let them out of there and into the rest of the apartment. They didn’t want much to do w/ us the first few hours and our boy is a scaredy-cat and hid under the bed for like a day and 1/2, but as soon as I got their new toy out to play with them, our girl and I were best friends. We just let them out in there and gave them a couple hours to explore before we went in to check on them. Our boy was definitely scared when we brought him home and he would only pee a little ball or so at a time.
That’s something to be aware of that I didn’t know about: this is apparently especially problematic with boys, but when cats get really scared they can have trouble peeing. It may clear up after a day or two and they’ll be fine, but it could also turn into a UTI which could also be very bad. When we told her he wasn’t peeing more than just grape sized balls at a time and he’d be in there for a while and mew a little bit like it hurt, our vet gave us a cat-pheramone plug in (basically like Glade but for cats…) that was supposed to help calm him down. Of course by that time he was pretty much over it anyways but w/e. So that’s something you may want to keep an eye out for if little Oliver is really nervous when you bring him home. If he has trouble peeing, make sure you mention it to your vet. UTI’s can get very serious very quickly.
We love our demon furbabies 🙂 Even if our girl terrorizes paper in the apartment and our boy has required multiple possibly-emergent-but-ended-up-being-just-fine-the-little-stinker trips to the vet!
Post # 10
Aha. My SO says he can’t stand my old man cat- but more often than not- they’re cuddled together on the sofa.
In fact, the cat likes him more than me!
Post # 11
Well thanks ladies sooo much for all of the suggestions and helpful advice. Oliver was not overly pleased with the car ride home. He tried to get out of his carrying case the whole time. Poor guy! When we got home finally my neice was there and she LOVED him but i’m not so sure he was as fond of her. It went well though, she picked him up and carried him around and he didn’t bite, or scratch her, or try to get her at all so good signs! When Boyfriend or Best Friend and I went to bed he cried a little and got out of his designated area but I only had to put hiim back once before he went quite.
This morning he’s a little crazy scratching and climbing and playing. He is in better spirits though so i’m happy about that. Boyfriend or Best Friend seems to have come around a little. He hasn’t gotten too close but Oliver was cuddled up against him last night. So we will see.
And just because he is sooo darn cute :o)
Post # 12
awwww!! We got a kitten in October and he’s a full-fledged CAT now! TAKE AS MANY PICTURES AS YOU WANT WHEN THEY’RE THIS TINY!! 🙂
Also, would recommend a scratching post, however the traditional “post” kind can be ugly. They make a new style now, you may have seen them at Wal-Mart, PetSmart, etc. It’s shaped like a wave. My little Hampton absolutely loves it. For about $20, he’s got his own “recliner”. Highly recommend!!!
Post # 13
Oh my gosh he is PRECIOUS
DO take as many photos as you can over the next few weeks. i CANNOT believe how teeny tiny my boys used to be =]
Post # 14
This picture was taken the day after we brought Hampton home. In less than 24 hours, our dog and new kitten were already brothers!! Fiance took this picture and sent it to me at work…ohh how I HATED being away from the lil guy during his first few days!!
Post # 15
He’s so precious! Ditto what the other ladies said, take TONS of pictures now, they grow soooo fast! When we got our kitten a couple years ago I was constantly taking pictures. My husband (then fiance) thought I was crazy with the camera but now we both love looking through the pictures of when our cat was a crazy kitten.
Post # 16
I think I saw one of those waves the other day. That’s a good idea! How long does it usually take them to be full grown?
Ejs – I think the next one i’ll need is an exotic shorthair. He is soo damned cute! Does he shed really bad?