Post # 1
I’m working on getting out save the date cards addressed and in the mail, hopefully by tomorrow. I love my future husband with all my heart but getting the names and addresses from people on his side of the family has been like PULLING TEETH! Arghh!!!
What is the big freaking deal?! I totally did not see this one coming! Anyone else have to drag names and addresses out of your FIL’s?
Post # 3
Enh, not too much trouble. I basically said “If I don’t get the information I need by XXX date, then they won’t be invited.” I got what I needed right away 🙂
Post # 4
@Ms. Pink Scrubs: I gave each address gatherer a deadline (which was like 7 months in advance because we have a 2 year engagement). My mom sent a mass email 30 seconds later and copied me to get her portion. My dad took like 3 months and gave me incorrect addresses (which are still wrong and I should probably deal with since we’re sending Save-The-Date Cards this week). Future Mother-In-Law got me her list in like a month in an awesome document. She was by far the easiest to deal with. Fiance was a PITA. He texted his friends individually. And then forwarded me the texts. Sometimes witht he person’s name. I would get them when I wasnt near my spreadsheet and it was just annoying.
Post # 5
Yup, it was a pain for me too and it wasn’t better having his mother help! Now that we sent out invitations and I have been getting response cards back, I have found out that I have been spelling people’s names wrong and feel extremely bad (apparently his mother doesn’t care about spelling people’s names right, but I do!) Come to find out some people haven’t been living at the address she gave me, but never told me that!
Post # 6
Yes!!! It was impossible! I was reminding him daily! His parents weren’t any better though until we were calling them daily. I can’t say my parents were any better!! We finally have them all and I’m the lazy one not getting on the save the dates! Thankfully I have time!
Post # 7
We actually got ours fairly quickly, which was nice. I had a fairly large list from sending out holiday cards last year, knew some addresses off the top of my head, made my family write theirs down at a get together we had, had Fiance text some of his friends for theirs, and sent a large number of Facebook messages for everyone else. Some people took forever, and Fiance had to be reminded several times, but we finally got them.
ETA: We also had to Google a small handful of addresses that we couldn’t get for anything. For example, NO ONE had one of FI’s uncles’ addresses, so I started searching around (he’s a local doctor) and finally found it. I cross-referenced it on Google maps. I did the same thing with one of the aunts to get her house number, since we knew what street she lived on.
Post # 8
Ehhh, it was like this for my too with my FI’s family!
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2012 - Zama Beach Club, Isla Mujeres, Mexico
I had the exact same problem. It was so hard getting that stuff from his mom so I had to go through his aunt instead.
Then, then, thennnnnn after the wedding, when we were getting ready to send out ‘thank you’ cards, my computer crashed and I had to do it all over again. Fail.
Post # 10
Omg yes! And it’s all his friends and family (groomsmen). So get this…we finally got all the addys. I got some through facebook after so much time had passed that I knew he just wasn’t going to do it. We had (I created) a spreadsheet and we got all the Save-The-Date Cards done and sent…then the flashdrive broke. All those frickin addresses gone…arrgghh…so now we’re gonna have to do it all again for the invitations :/
Post # 11
@DaneLady: Haha that worked for me too! 🙂
Post # 12
Yep! It’s seriously been one of the most challenging tasks I’ve had yet. My fiance has been the worst time-wise, but my dad’s list was a confusing mix of first names, first and last names, and nicknames (Pete Moss, Momo, etc.). Dear Momo, we cordially invite you to our wedding. Awesome.
Post # 13
YES. The same for us! My parents have sent me all confirmed correct addresses two months ago. I have created shared google docs for them to easily enter their addresses, signed up for spokeo to track people down, looped in his sister and brother and NOTHING!
I asked for final addresses 2 months ago. Fiance has called his mom and asked “what’s up with the addys” and she said “her computer crashed”. But every week for the past two months she has told me they are being put in the mail. STILL NOTHING.
I wouldn’t mind but I just see how it hurts Fiance. He would like his family there and right now it is only my side that we have. Just kills me to see him sad.
We live across the country from all of them otherwise it would be a little easier to track everyone down and ask others to help, but we just don’t see them that easily. Le sigh.