Post # 1
I feel like we are so close it hurts! The ring is ready but the jeweler is in Vermont (about 3 hours from us). I am really glad about it being ready and I like the jeweler & I’m glad he chose it even though it’s far away, but I just feel like, “Come on already!” I’ve waited for what feels like forever for him to be ready and now I have to wait for him to be able to take time off (he recently started a new job) or for us to make time in the weekend (he’s been traveling a lot for work so I don’t want to force him to do a round trip to Vermont in one day to get my ring!). Also there was talk of a romantic weekend in Vermont where we could go get it together, so far he hasn’t been more specific on a date. But he did tell the dog he was going to ask Mommy an important question in a few weeks and he hopes she says yes. I love it when we talk to the dog. Oh haha and he said soon the dog will take his last name (all pup’s paperwork has my last name).
It is doing weird things to me. I’m overconfident and very scared at the same time.
Overconfidence: Yesterday we were watching Mad Men where Peggy is going to move in with Abe, and I was yelling at the TV, “Don’t do it! Mistake!” Well he took it somewhat personally and I hurt his feelings (actually I feel like a mean person now that I’m writing it out now). When we were not so close to being engaged, I would have kept my thoughts to myself.
Nervous: I am most worried that my reaction will not be good enough. That may sound weird but I feel like it would be insincere to not be really excited by the proposal, since I spent so much time and energy freaking out about the lack of proposal. But I am not sure I will be able to be sincerely excited. Happy, yes. Crying, screaming, excited? I don’t see it.
Post # 3
I feel the same way re: being nervous! It’s like as soon as I realized it was really REALLY going to happen I started feeling all weird and freaky. I think (/know because one of my friends spilled the beans!!) that he is going to propose TONIGHT and I am sitting here at work freaking out and stomach all aflutter with anxiety. How do you react to a proposal?!? I feel like I will just say, “holy shit.” or something else semi-innapropriate.
Post # 4
I totally understand the nervousness! I’m not a crier in general and I always worried that my reaction to his proposal would be underwhelming. When he did propose, I realized that it was about to happen and I got so nervous I just kept playing with my phone until he was like, “hey, I kinda need your attention”. When he asked it was surreal and I said yes(!) and we hugged and kissed, but there was no screaming/crying/ passing out (no offence if this was someone eles’ reaction, it’s just not me). I asked him if he was upset that I didn’t cry or anything and he said he knew I wouldn’t because that’s just not who I am.
Good luck! I hope it works out perfectly
Post # 5
Thanks for your responses!
@kamurp: I like that your reaction is just who you are & that’s okay.
@misshydra: Glad it happened for you!
I am really starting to lose it just a tiny bit b/c I left him off the hook for my birthday in June (he helped plan my party but didn’t get me anything) because he was supposed to propose for our annivarsary (Monday) but now he’s not going to – so he’s basically getting off really easy.
Post # 6
I agree with your thoughts your reaction, I feel the same way! Im waiting and waiting and when you know its so close, its not a really surprise. I feel like when it happens it will be more of a sigh of relief than genuine delight. which also makes me mordidly dread it.
Post # 7
Oh my gosh, girls! I feel the same way. I know he has the ring. I know it’s close. And rather than being excited, I’m nervous and I feel sort of weird.
Why do I feel this way?! I thought it would be the most exciting time ever..waiting for a proposal.
I really think that these icky feelings might be because I’m expecting it. We did the whole picking a ring thing together and as happy as I am that he allowed me to pick my dream ring, I feel like the “Surprise! I’m proposing!” factor is totally gone.