Post # 1
I am a bit of a control micro managing monster. WOW that sounds quite terrible doesn’t it? Bee’s hear me out please
I am terrible with delegation. I have worked at a management level position for 6 yrs and only 2 of those years did I take advantage of having an assistant. Reason being – I want to know how things are getting done, the timely manner in which they are getting done, what resources are being used, what resources aren’t being used – I think you get where I am going. When I don’t know or have that information I become overwhelmed w/ extreme levels of stress which in turn causes tremendous anxiety.
As previously mentioned in my ‘how we met’ post AIG14 meet MAH07 from earlier today I shared about my collection of hidden wedding folders in my personal email account. I have been gathering these folders for approx. 1 yr and 7 months – but who’s counting, LOL When the time comes to discuss venues, florists, photographers, music, and color schemes, I have narrowed down the research – I don’t want the pressure combo of time and/or indecisiveness to grab hold of the stress/anxiety in me. No Thank You! In each category above I have 3-4 different options. This way when the time DOES arrive we can make the final decision together – I just got a head start
I want and we will have our most perfect day – with all of our t’s crossed and our i’s dotted – THAT IS FINAL!
Do you have hidden wedding info gathered to save time when the time comes? Am I going to far and making this about me me me and not us us us?
Post # 3
I think it’s a good idea to have a lot of things researched especially if you are going to have a shorter engagement period. I know how you feel about the controlling micro manager. I really like to be involved in everything and know how things are being done.
Post # 4
lmbo a girl after my own heart!! i have several folders separated into color schemes and times of the year!!!
Post # 5
Totally what I did. I’m a project manager… therefore, I am a self-imposed task master at her finest. Project manager’s really shouldn’t be allowed to plan weddings… my head feels like it could implode from the small details I have yet to organize and place in my timeline. Geesh.
Post # 6
I have a folder on my desktop marked “ONE FINE DAY” & it has a gazillion photo ideas, an ongoing list aka “THE FACT SHEET” of ideas that pop into my head at random parts of the day…I mighttt even have a guest list started 🙂 Included on “THE FACT SHEET” is everyyyy venue I could possibly imagine wanting to have my wedding at….and also two separate folders for DW’s that I have considered having if I don’t get married in Tampa. By the time I get engaged, I won’t NEED a year to plan! 😛
Post # 7
@linspurdu: OMG you are soooo right! I’m a project manager too and have put so much on myself, but strangely thrive under the tasks/pressure. It’s sick.
@jackie-o: I totally get you with the “lack of information causes anxiety.” Because of this I don’t think there’s anything wrong with planning ahead – I think it’s a wise decision!! It will definitely save you time and effort. My fiance is constantly laughing at the fact that I’m not “obsessing” over each and every detail. What I don’t tell him is that I’ve been planning for a while 🙂 Also, if your man is anything like mine, he needs 3-4 options, not 10-11 to choose from. So see, you’re totally not making it “me me me” you’ve got him in mind as well!!!
Of course planning the big stuff ahead may give you a lot of time to focus on details and the thousands of diy projects you could be doing….scary LOL.