(Closed) getting over arguments…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee

Do you have a way you like to relieve stress?  Personally, I find a way to let those agressive feelings out by going for a walk/run.  Working out helps me clear my head.  

If you’ve always had the last word all your life, that can be a hard thing to start to let go of, but you have to start letting go at some point otherwise your relationship will start to suffer.  Think of it from your partner’s perspective.  If you always need to “win” and have the last word, it must really suck for him to “lose” at every argument.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Part of snuggling up with the enemy after a fight is learning to forgive and forget! ( easier said than done)

I totally know what your thinking and going through , its normal. We can’t just be hurt and get all up in arms with an argument then go make out the next day, it seems to go against our guarded and vindictive nature.

Try and think of things in a bigger timeline than the moment that your currently in. Like what if today was the last day I ever spend with my man? Would you want to give up the petty crap and just love on him and make the best of it? Life is too short to take our relationships for granted.

Post # 7
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think the important thing to remember to do is remind yourself in the moment that you are being irrational. The angrier you feel the more irrational you are probably being. I understand it’s difficult to do because the anger feelings kind of take over for a brief period, but with practice it actually gets quite easy.

Also, if you just take a break from the conversation or argument that’s getting you heated that will probably help too. I’ve stopped myself from having an irrational flipout several times by just going into another room and calming down. I blame it on the hormones! 😉

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