(Closed) Getting over body image

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh man.  Well, I am very grateful for baby, but sometimes I joke that I feel like I donated my body to “science.”  I mean, the biology of the baby-building really takes over.  I have let go.  I try to love my body and be thankful for what it is doing with baby.  I am not going to worry about my weight until after baby is born.  I am just focusing on doing al the right things for baby- eating as healthy as I can (holy nausea!) and getting out for walks and hikes with Darling Husband. 

It sounds like you have body image struggles that don’t really have to do with pregnancy- as you were mistreated in HS.  I would do your best to love yourself through this time and sort of try to let go a little bit.  You are active and fit – you said you have been for several years, so you won’t have a problem getting back to it.  In fact, what your body does with growing a healthy baby will likely give you confidence. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@SimplyChic11:  I completely understand where you are coming from, I was my biggest when I got with my Darling Husband (bless his heart) I was the smallest  before I got pregnant. I am now 33 weeks and I hate that I can’t fit into my clothes, want to be able to actually wear cute clothes. My face is becoming more full;round. When I was first pregnant; looking fat and not pregnant I hated it. People still ask me if I’m pregnant when I wear hoodies so I guess I’m not as big as I feel. I just learned to actually kinda like the way I look, some people love the way pregnant people look. And some day your gonna look back and miss being pregnant, crazy now you think but it’s only your first baby once. Stay positive, it’s only nine months.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@SimplyChic11:  I completely understand where you are coming from, I was my biggest when I got with my Darling Husband (bless his heart) I was the smallest  before I got pregnant. I am now 33 weeks and I hate that I can’t fit into my clothes, want to be able to actually wear cute clothes. My face is becoming more full;round. When I was first pregnant; looking fat and not pregnant I hated it. People still ask me if I’m pregnant when I wear hoodies so I guess I’m not as big as I feel. I just learned to actually kinda like the way I look, some people love the way pregnant people look. And some day your gonna look back and miss being pregnant, crazy now you think but it’s only your first baby once. Stay positive, it’s only nine months.

P.s- I guess my problem is I’m worried about losing the weight after the baby.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Your body changes in such a visible and uncontrollable way while pregnant, so I think these feelings are normal and natural for everyone. Some women absolutely love being pregnant the entire time, and honestly, pregnancy IS beautiful — you are literally creating another human life, and what could be more amazing than that? — but when it’s happening to you personally, it feels a little scary.

I’m 20 weeks today, and up until maybe two weeks ago, I just felt as if I looked like I was getting fat in the middle. I’m sure at the end I’ll feel enormous and not so great about my appearance too. But I’m trying to just enjoy this time and realize that everyone goes through the same thing. Seeing the baby during an ultrasound and feeling the baby kick will probably make you feel a million times more like a mother, and buying some cute maternity clothes will emphasize what is no doubt an adorable bump too!

Be nice to yourself — you’ll have your body back in no time, plus an adorable baby to boot Smile

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh, honey.  I have so much experience with this.

I understand old wounds coming back up when you’re pregnant: my name is Heather, and my younger brother called me “Heifer” for YEARS.  When I was pregnant with my first (about 8, 9 weeks) I remember my jeans pinching my middle, while I cried in the middle of a Barnes and Noble that I really WAS a Heifer.  DH was confused.

And then, for a long, long time, I was unhappy with my pregnant body.  And then, there was a magical day, where I woke up, and my belly was perfectly rounded.  I felt pregnant, and not just fat.  That lasted about a month before 3rd trimester junk took over.

Then, the apartment manager at the time heard someone ask me about the baby, and she said “Oh, are you PREGNANT?  I thought you were just FAT.”

You’re not guaranteed to never have your body back.  Maybe you’ll be just fine right after.  Maybe it will take some work.  Either way, you’ll have an adorable baby to show for it, and honestly even if it takes some work, that baby is going to be worth it.

(P.S. Don’t worry about how long it takes you to bond with your pregnancy.  It’s different for everyone, some people feel like moms the second they pee on the stick.  Others take longer.  There’s no right or wrong way to do this.)

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think a lot of pregnant women go through that and It’s even harder in the first couple months because you don’t quite look pregnant but you definitly feel and look like you have put on weight. I remember thinking I looked huge at 8 weeks and now that i’m 29 weeks I laugh at my 8 week self lol.

Just try to remember that its such a short time period and that your body will bounce back. It might not be exactly the same as it was before but you will drop the weight quicker than you think – espeically if you breastfeed. Try to enjoy your changing body as it really is an amazing experience.  I’ve put on about 30 pounds (way more than I wanted to at this point) but I know there isn’t much I can do about it either until baby gets here. so just don’t over indulge but enjoy being able to eat what you want, its the only time in your life you don’t have to worry too much about that! Also invest in some cute maternity clothes – pants will full panels really make your bump look good!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@SimplyChic11:  Oh, mothers.

With this pregnancy (my 2nd) I have at 23 weeks gained 4lbs.  My Mom goes on and on and ON about how unhealthy I am because I have gained soooo much weight.

The other day I had a double scoop of ice cream, and she goes “aren’t you just so ASHAMED?”

But you know, I wasn’t.  And there is no reason for you to be either!  Make smart choices most of the time, I prefer to watch the scale to see if I need to adjust and trust what your doctor says about your weight in regards to amount and no one else.

Really, the bump is way better.  And later, when you can see your whole belly jump with kicks, you’ll be fascinated by it.  I stared at my belly in amazement, and I didn’t care how big it was by then.

PM me anytime you want to talk about this!  I know all about it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m 11 weeks and change and I know EXACTLY how you feel.  I was a big girl for most of my life and then about 5 years ago decided to change that.  Worked out with a trainer and lost 50 lbs… had muscles and everything.  Then when I met the now hubby I got comfortable and gained a lot back.  Now, I’m preggo and feeling like a giant whale!  I also cannot wait to have a bump and stop looking and feeling just, large.

I also realize that it’s all worth it to me.  I’m 34 and have wanted a baby FOR.EVER. While I need to get a little control of myself in the eating department, I’m just talking myself into being fine with this as it’s only temporary and soon there will be evidence of that baby.  πŸ™‚

Chin up… you are not alone.  It will all be worth it when those lil babies are here. πŸ™‚

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m completely with you.  I’ve basically been on a diet for the past 6 years and always struggle with my weight.  And, on top of that I have PCOS (thus making weight loss super hard) and had a really hard time getting pregnant.  So, while I finally got pregnant and am so insanely grateful to finally be here, I’m having trouble embracing the pregnancy weight gain.  I looked at my 15 week bump pic and I felt huge compared to what I think I should be in my head.  It’s so hard to reconcile that it’s ok and natural and GOOD to gain weight and see your waistline expand (and eventually disappear) when your pregnant.  I feel guilty for not embracing each and every moment and pound in pregnancy since it took me 2.5 years to get here.  BUt, I think that it’s natural for people, women especially, to have a hard time gaining weight and being perfectly ok with it. 

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