Post # 17
@FauxPas2012: Wow, thank you for sharing! I guess a little less than a month isn’t so bad to still be struggling. It sucks to hear someone else was hurting like this, but helps to hear it’s a normal thing to feel. I’m so sorry for your loss, it sounds like you really loved her too 🙁 You’re right, it sucks a whole bunch!!
Post # 18
@Amayansong: ((Hugs)) I’m so sorry for your loss. We left a beloved dog behind in the Philippines when we moved to United States. A year later, we found out from family that the dog ran away and was never seen again. I was only 8yrs old, but it broke my heart in two. To this day, I can’t think about him without tearing up. Right now, my oldest dog is 13.5 yrs old, and I sometimes feel panicked at the idea of losing her.
What you’re feeling is completely normal and okay. Your husband is so right about the situation. Let yourself grieve, and don’t worry about shoulds or what anyone else says about it. Losing a loved one is hard.
Post # 19
In early November, my cat didn’t come home one night. This was a kitten I found as a 2-3 week old stray in a rubbish tip on the other side of the world, and hand reared with a syringe. It was absolute hell exporting her to the UK.
I have since engaged in what must be one of the biggest missing cat hunts in the UK. It has involved about 13,000 flyers, 500 posters, a private detective, a wildlife camera, 4 humane traps, a two storey rabbit hutch (!), and hours and hours of searching. I have also lobbied the local council and local MP to change their animal welfare regulations, and appeared in the local paper.
In the start, I cried every day. I cry less now… after a month or so it becomes too exhausting to both cry and search.
The hardest thing is the not knowing. If I can’t get closure, when will I ever know when to stop?
Post # 21
I’m so sorry that you had to lose your friend, but I promise you it was the best thing for her. That is hard to remember and remind yourself but it is true.
My family had to have my first dog put down a bit over a year ago. She was sixteen and I had had her since she was a puppy, we grew up together. She became deaf and blind and on very expensive medication. She fell very ill one night when I was away and had to be put down the very next day as soon as I got back. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do and I’m still angry at myself, even though I know it wasn’t my fault.
I still miss her terribly and I do still cry (am crying right now lol), but not every day. I totally understand the feeling that noone gets it but the bees here have already proven that some people do.
There are many ways people greive. I don’t think I will ever ‘get over’ her passing or stop missing her. Maybe you will be the same. Either way though you will at some point be able to remember her fondly. It doesn’t matter if it takes you longer than it would take others. ((hugs))
Post # 22
@HisMoon: Thank you so much for sharing. I can’t imagine being so far away when a pet runs away & not being able to help! Hopefully she ran to a new loving home 🙂 I felt worried at times about losing Jilly & although it inevitably did happen, it helped me appreciate the time I did have with her. It’s so hard watching them get older!
@Rachel631: Wow, that is love! It may be even harder to know they are lost and not have closure. I hope for the best for you Both in finding yoir cat or even for just finding peace while you’re searching.
@Dogsbody92: You’re right, ias hard as it is for me, it was the best thing. Just, as you know, so hard to let go! I’m sorry you had to let your little one go too! 16 years is a great life!
Post # 23
@Amayansong: Thank you. I’d also like to use this thread to appeal to people to always get their pets microchipped. My pets are all chipped, and it really does sway the odds in your favour if they go missing!
I hope you feel better soon. I know how hard it is!
Post # 24
2009 ish we had our lovely shiba inu. not even a year old. trained her, loved her, she was our boat dog. that summer we lived out on the boat fishing the alaskan seas. and i just didnt have the heart to make her wear her life vest every single day. it was inside waters and nice enough out. we fish at 2 knots. thats super super slow. but it only took a second and she was gone. searched for days. there were 5 boats right there that were looking. how did we not find her…. it took a long time. i had to fish and live on the boat after we lost her. it was so hard. even now my Darling Husband doesnt really want another dog cuz no one could replace her. And it was so hard loosing her. it took me a long time. i always look for her when i ride the ferry. wondering if she swam to shore and is living in the woods now. you never know
Post # 25
@Amayansong: I haven’t yet lost a pet but it is one of my greatest fears. My dogs are my babies and goodness knows when they are sick or injured it tears me up!
I am so very sorry that you lost your precious one. I do hope that you find peace however long that may take.
Post # 26
@Amayansong: I just put dog my dog of 16 1/2 years on Tuesday. I am so sorry for your loss. Hopefully you can find comfort in knowing our fur babies are playing together in doggy heaven, no longer in pain.
Post # 27
It NEVER stops hurting, though I probably stopped crying EVERYDAY after about 3 months. But when I think about her and what we had to do I always cry. So its probably now once a week. We had to make the decision 3.5 years ago 🙁
Post # 28
I’m so sorry about your loss 🙁
It took me about a month to stop crying every day, and then more like 3 to stop thinking about her (with or without crying) every day.
I think our puppy really helped me concentrate on moving on (but my situation is night and day different from yours, so I’m not recommending anything to you). Sometimes I still get sad, but because of my situation with our dog and putting her down, most times I feel relief and happiness at the good times we had.
Post # 29
In March I lost the dog of the family I have been a nanny for for 3 years to cancer. I still cry over him.
In October I lost the dog I had since I was 14 he was 18 and had to be put down. I don’t cry as much beacuse he needed to be set free but he was my childhood best friend for sure! I have my own dogs in my home and he stayed home with my dad the last 5 years but still…
Two weeks ago I lost my other childhood dog. She had a sezier it was very sudden and unexpected but she was heartbroken at the loss of our other dog and I just don’t think she could stand being with out him.
I still cry if I think about it enough but I try not to think about it.
this year has been a huge year of loss for me. I also lost a highschool best friend and my grandmother so its just been rough.
Post # 30
My family dog we had since a pup when I was 6 passed 3 years ago, the week we purchased our first home. I literally cried for days and when I went to my parents house I cried a lot and was so lonely. He too used to give me nose kisses and I still miss him soooooo much. I got another pup 3 months later and she is my baby I wouldn’t cope at all if something happened to her but I still miss him terribly.
Post # 31
@Amayansong: I am so sorry for your loss. I totally understand where you’re coming from. SO used to have the most beautiful dog, I totally fell in love with him. We had been together for about 8 months when he had to have him put to sleep, the dog was in a lot of pain due to having no cushioning between his neck vertebrae. His neck would lock up and he’d be howling the most heart shattering howl. I remember his final night with us, I heard him drop to the floor and I got up to check on him, and he was trying to get back up and his neck locked up again. SO and I were crying our hearts out on the other side of the room, knowing we couldn’t do a single thing to help him (besides the heartbreaking decision to put him to sleep) – we couldn’t even go near him. It still makes me cry now, and it will be 6 years next year. SO has never gotten over losing him, he never will – I always say it’s not about getting over it, it’s about getting through it. His dog meant the absolute world to him. Through the ups and downs of life, his beloved dog was the one constant. We are talking about getting a dog, it’s taken this long to feel ready. But the downside is thinking of the potential for loss.
We have a family pet, a cockatiel at my parent’s place. He is 14 years old now, and I feel heartbroken already at the thought of losing him. He’s healthy and feisty as ever, he’s been such a great companion and pet. He’s our designated door bell as he hears people arriving at our house before we do!
@Rachel631: I hope you find your cat. We used to have a chinchilla cat with the most beautiful temperament, he didn’t even mind being carried around like a baby or being dressed up in doll’s clothes! (He did, however, mind when we had his long fur shaved for summer! He hid for days, then when he finally resurfaced, he looked so embarrassed. He wouldn’t even look at us until he got used to having a skinny, bare body and gigantic fur boots and head!). One night, he didn’t come home for feeding and locking up, and we never saw him again. We assume that somebody took him, he was such a great cat. I read a story yesterday about how a girl’s dog had gone missing 5 years ago, and has just now turned up 200miles from where he originally lived! A family had taken him in and looked after him. There’s always hope so don’t give up! I hope your cat turns up soon, safe and well. It certainly sounds like you’re doing everything you possibly can and I wish you all the best.