(Closed) getting over that “cookie cutter” feeling

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Even though our location/venue was unique I felt like the wedding itself (the details, cake, decor, etc) was pretty cookie cutter. I didnt have many unique details or decorations like many weddings you see in blogs/online. At first I cared, but then I just got over it. It really didnt matter! Since you feel this venue is more cookie cutter, you could spruce it up with unique details…escort cards, favors, decor, etc.

Where is the venue?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

my thoughts are you are kinda living and breathing weddings 24/7 at the moment most guests only see a few weddings per year if they are lucky so where you think its all been there done that, your guests will be wowed by the beautiful setting and how things are organized and being happy for you – they might not even know the term cookie cutter wedding to think it at all

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@NJmeetsBX: If it makes you feel any better I have lived in MD/VA my whole life and never been to a wedding there or even heard of the venue! I think having an after party is a great idea! Could you use string lights all over the place to give it a more city feel? Maybe decorate with metallics?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think if its going to bother you why not continue hunting and see what else you can find?  I had similar concerns to you, I always wanted to get married at a vinyard, but in Australia that is SOOOO common, every vinyard has a barrel room for reception and a garden with an aisle and stuff.  On our way up to wine country to look at venues we stopped at a mini-champagne house that serves breakfast to fuel up, and totally fell in love with it, so cancelled all our other apts and booked on the spot!  It had the feel we wanted without feeling overdone.   Of course you’ve been looking already so you’ve seen a bit of whats out there, but i really think if you want someone city-ish and unique you shouldn’t sell yourself short! I’d keep looking if I were you.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Use very modern/city feeling decor.  People may have been to many weddings there… but never YOUR wedding 🙂

I’ve been a wedding planner for years.  I’ve seen about 500 weddings in the EXACT same space.  And each were unique! 

Enjoy the value you’re getting and select things you and Fiance like.  It will be unique to you!

Good luck 🙂

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I also think that when you are in full wedding planning mode, it’s really easy to get caught up in wedding blog world and obsess over all of the tiny details and unique features. In real life, though, when I attend a wedding, I rarely notice any of those things! I usually just think of whether or not I had fun and enjoyed the wedding, not whether or not the venue was one-of-a-kind. Try to focus on all of the positives like what you like about it and what a great deal you’re getting, and you can always use decor to get more of the feel you want.

Post # 10
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646 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A wedding is a wedding is a wedding. Yes, we spend tons of time “personalizing” them, but at the end of the day, it’s a wedding with a few “personal touches” no one notices anyway. As long as you can get over it, don’t worry!

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

If it makes you feel any better, I looked it up and the place is pretty freakin beautiful.

The key to getting away from that cookie-cutter feel is to inject things into your wedding that are your personality. Even if they are things you wouldn’t normally see at a wedding. For example, we got married at Halloween and had a semi-formal evening wedding. Despite the formalness of the affair, we had polka-dotted table linens (because I am crazy in love with anything polka-dots), a zombie cake topper, a cardbox-monster and horror movie poster table numbers. We did it to inject a little bit of Halloween and our crazy nerdiness into our wedding without compromising the elegant, wedding feel we wanted. Those personal touches are what set you apart. Yes, we had a WOW venue, but the things that people talked about the most were: the photobooth, my dress, the candy buffet (the fav by FAR) and the food.

Look up loft or city wedding inspiration and use those things at your venue to bring in more of an urban feel. Use a chic, modern color palette. Don’t be afraid of the unexpected or the unusual.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@NJmeetsBX: We got married at a clubhouse in Georgia. I also just looked up the venue and its gorgeous!! Its also a pretty blank slate so you could do so many things with it!

Post # 15
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Early on I tried to break the “cookie cutter” feeling, but then I realized that a wedding is, just that a wedding and there’s only so many things you can do to make it feel different. =]

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@NJmeetsBX: I completely understand your apprehension. We are getting married at NWM next year.  At least 2 of my co-workers have been to a wedding there and one of FI’s friend’s got married at NWM two months ago. Due to it being a beautiful and popular venue, a lot of events are held there.  I fell in love with NWM b/c of the suburb location as a retreat from the city. We still plan to host few gatherings in DC for our guests that weekend.

I would suggest that you save NWM as a back up as you continue looking for a venue that provides a modern city feel.  Don’t force yourself to be sold on the venuejust  because of a “good deal”.  I think NWM is a fabulous venue “wink wink” but it must “feel right” for you both.

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