Getting pregnant accidentally on purpose

posted 1 year ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Busy bee

missviolet92 :  yeppp happened with a friend of mine.He and his wife had disagreed in when to have kids, he wanted to wait five years after getting married so they could be in a good place financially. She didn’t. Ended up pregnant a year and a half in after skipping BC. He was not happy.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I’ve overheard a conversation where a hairdresser in the salon I go to (thankfully not my hairdresser) said she is fully onboard with woman accidentally getting pregnant on purpose and even encourages it. She once listened in to a private conversation I had with mine saying I wouldn’t be having any children but that I was broody…she then interrupted my convo to say I just just “get knocked up” not caring what my SO would say. (He has been snipped so can’t have children and I’m ok with that). 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I knew someone who told her boyfriend she “couldn’t get pregnant” so they didn’t need to use protection. She fell pregnant immediately. Stupidity on his part for not using a condom regardless tbh. Not that that makes what she did okay.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I know three people who have done this, happens a lot more than people realise. They all tell everyone falling pregnant was an accident. Two of them are close friends and one is the best friend of a close friend of mine.

So the first woman told me she had taken her implant out and not bothered to tell her boyfriend as “he never asked”, why would he though? He’s not going to ask her every time they have sex do you still have your implant in is he? She had been wanting a baby for some time even before she met him and was talking about tricking her FWB into getting her pregnant in the same manner. He was really upset when he found out she was pregnant as he was not ready to have kids (according to his friends who I am friends with, she tells a different story) and before they had agreed what to do she announced her pregnancy (of 5 weeks) at a party. 

The other friend told her boyfriend of three months and her parents (she was 19) she was taking the pill, but told me and other friends she never takes it as she doesn’t like the side effects. She had also wanted a baby for a while and was hoping she fell pregnant with a guy she was casually dating before her boyfriend, I remember her taking a test with me at work and crying because it was negative.

The last one is a friend of a friend, she stopped taking the pill as she was turning 30 and was desperate for a baby and didn’t tell the guy she had a FWB situation with, he flipped and accused her of doing it on purpose and asked her for an abortion, she refused and then tried to paint him as the bad guy to everyone. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

missviolet92 :  My husbands exes best friend did this at 16. She thought her boyfriend was going to break up with her so her highly intelligent idea was to poke holes in the wrapped condoms with a pin. She got pregnant and their baby is now 18. They are still together as a couple and have added a few kids to the brood since then. They seem happy but I’m sure he doesn’t know what she did with the condoms. We still see these people regularly. I’m not a fan of the wife even without knowing this but the husbands really nice. My husband only knows this secret because this lady told his ex because they were best friends in high school…

So yeah I’m sure it does happen very often….

If I have sons I’ll tell them to always BYO condoms and to only go into battle without a helmet if they are 100% OK with having a kid. You never know…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Yup. it happens.  However, it’s also important to realize than men do it too.  They promise to pull out and they don’t, or they lie about a vasectomy or even deliberately sabotage a condom.  Sometimes it’s done because they want to have condom free sex and somtimes it’s done for all the same reasons as listed above.  I had a friend whose ex-husband poked pinholes in her diaphram when he heard she was thinking of leaving him.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I know three people that I strongly suspect did this, but claim it was an accident. One friend has almost given it away in what she said on several occasions. All are still with their respective partners but I really dislike the idea of a relationship based on such deception. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes, this is a thing .My ex’s boss was always very clear that he did not want kids (and was also clear to his wife before they got married).

I suppose she thought he’d change his mind if she got ‘accidentally’ pregnant on purpose, but he didn’t. He left her whilst she was still pregnant due to the deception and gross breach of trust.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’ve just remembered I know another person who did this, miscarried, and then he immediately broke up with her.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1993

My cousin had a hard time remembering to take her birth control pills. She did not want to get pregnant, so she would have her SO give her the pill to take in the morning before he left for work. My friend would be asleep and she would just swallow the pill her gave her without looking. He started giving her the placebo/sugar pills in the pack at first (when she should have been taking the active pills). Then he just started giving her m baby aspirin. She caught the baby aspirin after a few days because of the taste, but it was too late. She was already in the early stages for her pregnancy with her son. She cried for several days, but then got excited about the baby. The waited 7 years to get married and had another baby (girl) during that time. They divorced after 5 or so years because he cheated on her again.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Yes, I know someone who was on BC and went off it without telling her husband and she got pregnant. Don’t think he wanted kids. They’re still together 12yrs later but I don’t think he knows what happened. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I had a coworker who decided she was ready to get married, so she started taking bc only on days her long distance bf was in town. (Which, just doesn’t sound like a good time regardless of pregnancy.) She got pregnant and told him this. She was not this stupid. He did marry her, but…

 

I’ve had plenty of coworkers (I have sense moved out of that region; people suck) who have told me that their “accident baby” was a result of “I was on birth control but it failed because I didn’t take it one week.” 

 

I knew new a girl who lied about being pregnant, presumably magically, so that her bf began having unprotected sex with her until she did become pregnant. She didn’t get pregnant soon enough so she manufactured a miscarriage in between and convinced him that you can’t get pregnant right after a (fictitious) miscarriage. -She admitted to all this ; I’m not just assuming a woman is lying about her miscarriage. 

 

So, 1) Yes this is a thing. 2) It’s amazing what people are willing to tell you on the basis that you have the same genitals as them. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I’ve never known anyone to do this in my life. It sounds incredibly stupid. The decision to have a baby should be made between both parents, who are in a stable, loving, long-term relationship. If you can’t communicate a desire to have a baby to your partner, you should not be having a baby with that person. 

This is just asking to be a single parent with no support from the other. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yes, it happens. A friend of my sister’s did this when her relationship was in trouble to ‘fix’ things and secure the guy to her. The relationship didn’t last and the person who is most hurt is the poor kid. It’s beyond stupid and selfish.

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