Post # 1
I’m curious about ‘getting ready’ pictures. We’re doing a ‘first look’ session shortly before the ceremony. However, my mother stresses while she gets ready for things that are important. I really dont think she will be cool with a photographer taking any pictures or lurking and about to taking photos before she is 110% ready to go, though itd be nice to have some dress shots and stuff. Not many, but maybe a few pictures might be nice. Im thinking of having a few nice shots taken by my bridesmaids here and there with a heads up to my mom each time, perhaps, but not professionally. I guess theyre not that important to me, but a few might be nice. I dont want this to be something that causes and argument between my mother and I before hand or excess stress for her the day of. It’s a special day. What do y’all think? Should I avoid ‘getting ready’ pics, get my bridesmaids to take a few, or try to convince my mom that we want to do them professionally? Do you plan on doing ‘getting ready’ photos?
Post # 3
Maybe you can talk to your mother about it, and if she is firm on not being photographed, I’m sure you can let your photographer know and they’ll be sure to steer clear of the MOTB!
I’m taking getting ready pictures for a few reasons, I want my Fiance to realize how much I went through…annnd well I’m paying a lot of money to get my hair and makeup done, I want to immortalize this as much as I can and get my full money’s worth!
Post # 4
I’m not planning on doing getting ready photos professionally. Although I’m sure people will be snapping some here and there, I’m really confused as to what the heck your supposed to do with them. I mean, I’m not going to hang a photo of my half done hair or makeup on the wall and it doesn’t seem like a “cherished” time I would reflect on in a photobook.
But, as I always say, I’m not very sentimental.
Post # 5
Definitely ask your photog if ‘getting ready’ pictures can be done without photographing your mother. I feel like there’s a compromise somewhere here so both your mother and you will be happy. At the end of the day, it’s your wedding and you don’t want to sacrifice a part of the day that is important to you, so I think a compromise would be the best option. Explain the deal to your photographer, explain what will be happening to your mom, and really everything should be fine. My photographer showed up right before I was about to get dressed and he got a few getting ready pictures and no one was in them but me.
Post # 6
@PersephoneTheophania: i guess it depends on the photo package that you have with your photographer. if it includes the ‘getting ready’ pics, then do them. i would let your mom know and if she is not comfortable, then the photographer can stay clear of her. if not, you can always have bm’s take some casual candids of you and your mom.
i am not having ‘getting ready’ pics. i would feel like they were in my way. that’s just me though.
Post # 7
@aliavenue: I totally agree. I also had the “what the heck would I do with them?” thought.
My dad took a few pictures and that’s good enough for me. I was more concerned with getting enough time for the first look and couples shots beforehand.
Post # 8
I had getting ready photos done by my photographer and I’m so glad I did them! My mom stopped by the church (where we were getting ready) with her hair and makeup done… Then she went home got dressed, and came back… So she was always put together in the getting ready pictures. Maybe something like that is an option for your mom?
Post # 9
I enjoyed having the getting ready photos and I did use them in my wedding album, but I think it’s a personal thing that each bride (and their mother in the OP’s case) needs to decide. Here’s one of the pages showing how I used mine:
Post # 10
I want to have these too! but I don’t think I can afford to have that many hours from the photographer. So, I think I’ll have to hope for the best from my brother. He’s got a great camera, and his photos always look super amazing, so I think it will work out.
we’re planning to do a big scrapbook together of the WHOLE she-bang- engagement, pre-wedding, ceremony, reception, day-after brunch, and honeymoon… so there will be a place for our “getting ready” photos.
Post # 11
I’m really glad I had professional photos done during getting ready, but only because the people who were helping me get ready were all close to me – my Aunt did my make-up, my Mum touched it up, a girl I went to school with did my hair and my Mum and Maid/Matron of Honor helped with getting the dress on.
My Mum wasn’t in any of the professional pics until she was completely done up, though – I was the only one caught with my hair not done and make-up being put on. Let her know that she doesn’t have to have her pic taken until she’s 100% ready to go… maybe mention that to the photog as well?
Post # 12
I love taking those pictures, they are amazing for detail shots, and some of my clients find some of their favorite wedding picture from that time…. But ultimately, it is up to the client and what they are comfortable with. I am as repectful of my mother as anyone on the planet, but if I really wanted to have the pictures taken, then I would give her the option of getting ready early, so that she is ready during that time frame and that way we could both have what we want.
Post # 13
I loved my “getting ready” shots. But…YOU getting ready is different than you MOM getting ready. Can’t she be dressed, made up, etc., before you start putting on your dress and jewelry?
Post # 14
@BEPhoto: I agree with this.
I think “getting ready” pictures kind of reflect the bumbling, excited energy of the day. I think they are girly and fun. I think they also reflect the sometimes stark contrast between normal girl and sublime bridal beauty.
Personally , I love them.
Post # 15
We did getting ready photos and my mother had the same concerns. However, though she was there with me, she wasn’t in ANY until she was ready. It worked out pretty well. I got the pictures I wanted (and adore) and she didn’t have to be in any until she was ready which, really, since she didn’t do any of my hair or make-up and only really helped me into my dress (I say “only” as if it werent a major undertaking… but it was!) after she was completely done. In the end the pictures with her in them were still pretty focused on me so you can still hardly see her outside of her hands or her reflections or side views. It really worked out awesome! Here are some pages from our book and honestly, they are some of my favorites.
It is still a work in progress. Not sure how I feel about the second set of pages…
Post # 16
Keep this in mind (from a photog’s perspective): The “getting ready” photographs, are less about the act of getting dressed and ready, and more about the exchange of emotion and excitement between the Bride and her Mother/Grandmother/Bridesmaids etc.