Post # 1
I just got married in May. I am 26 and he is 28. We have been together since we were teens. Now that we’re married and have careers we have been talking about TTC. I have always felt like I have PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) because I have almost every symptom that comes along with it. I went to 2 doctors and I had one doctor tell me I did have it and one tell me I didn’t….. I am leaning more towards the side of I DO have it.
This concept is making me want to start TTC ASAP in case I am not able to have children easily. This would give us a head start on knowing if we need to go the fertility treatment route.
My concern about TTC early is that if we do start TTC and by some chance I happen to get pregnant right away, I may feel a bit un-prepared. The only reason I want to start TTC now is because I am pessimistic in the idea that it will not be possible for me to get pregnant on my own/naturally. Without a year of trying unsucessfully, fertility treatments will not be considered because infertility is “failure to achieve a clinical pregnancy after 12 months of regular unprotected sex.” So the reason i’d want to TTC now is so that we can speed up the process of getting closer to fertility treatments if need be. If I were to start trying TOMORROW and find out in a month I was pregnant, I truly don’t think i’d be mentally prepared for a baby.
Does it make sense to start TTC now even though I’m feel like I’m not really ready to have a baby, or should I wait a year to start trying only to have to try for another full year before starting fertility treatment (by then it would be 2 years).
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Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016
do not try now if you aren’t prepared to be pregnant the first time trying because you never know what could happen!! You are assuming it will take you a year but there’s a good chance that it might not. I really think you should wait.
Post # 3
I feel like you need to see your doctor again, or even a new one and get another opinion. I know it might be scary and you may feel rushed to have to try right away but seeing a gynocologist that you trust for an opinion on your PCOS will at least hopefully give you more answers. You can also at that point talk to them about TTC and do a pre-conception check-up as well. If you are not ready, wait! But at least try and get more answers first before you start TTC.
Post # 4
You need to get a better opinion from a better doctor. Go see someone else and have all the tests done and find out something definitive.
No matter what struggles you think you might have getting pregnant, there is always the chance that you will get pregnant right away. So you definitely don’t want to start trying unless you know that you would be 100% ok with having a baby now. Pregnancy is scary enough, let alone if you weren’t fully prepared for it to happen.
Post # 5
Are you on birth control pills? I would go off them (and use condoms) and get blood work done after 3 months to see what the situation is. You’ll know a lot more about potential PCOS, ovarian reserve, and how your cycle regulates. Then you can decide if you want to TTC, keep using condoms, or go back on the pill.
Post # 6
One of my Maid/Matron of Honor did exactly that as she actually has PCOS, so thought she would give herself some time, she fell pregnant within a month of trying and was a bit apprehensive and not completely overjoyed when she found out. She is pretty happy now 6 months later after she’s had time to wrap her head around it. I wouldn’t have started until I was absolutely ready if I were in her shoes though.
Post # 7
Maybe you should start by getting a better opinion from a new doctor.
I wouldn’t start if you’re truly not ready just because it might take you a while. You’re also still really young, if you were older I might have a different opinion. PCOS is not an infertility sentence. I have a friend with PCOS and all the symptoms (whose dr. told her long ago when she wants to get pregnant she should come in for help) who got pregnant twice in a years time (first was a miscarriage). It is still very possible it could happen immediately.
Post # 8
I definitely wouldn’t start trying because you think it may take a while because we did the same thing and BAM we got pregnant the first try! I would start when you definitely think you are 100% ready.
Post # 9
I’ve never been on BC pills. My period comes every 28-32 days. One Dr. told me I didn’t have PCOS because my periods come regularly, the ultrasound presently showed no cysts on my ovaries and my bloodwork came back normal. The other Dr. said I most likely have PCOS bebcause I have had irregular periods in the past (as a teen) and I have had a cyst in the past and mostly because of abnormal hair growth (one of the main reasons I went to the Dr. & suspected PCOS).
Post # 10
Thakns for all your respsonses. I may find another Dr. to get a third opinion and make my decision from there.