(Closed) Getting ready – with who?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think it’s pretty different for everyone. The only standard seems to be that BMs are invited. I wouldn’t want to invite too many people as it might get a little crowded/stressful! 

Post # 4
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m actually dealing with this right now – the only difference is that we’re getting ready in my hotel room so we can do pictures before the ceremony at the hotel (venue is half a mile away).  I plan to get ready with all my bridesmaids, mom, and mother-in-law.  But then again, they’re all haveing their hair and makeup done with me in the room as well, so that has a lot to do with it.  For my friend’s wedding we got ready at her venue and in the room were all her bridesmaids, flower girls, mom, mother-in-law, and her aunt.  I think it just depends how you are organizing everything that day and who you need where.  Good luck!

Post # 5
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We’re doing makeup in the hotel room, and I’m limiting it to:

me, Mom, Mom’s friend (who is helping out with day of things), two matrons of honor. After I’m dressed, Dad and stepmom can join us. So no more than 6 other people in the room. Too many people can get stressful for the bride- Future Mother-In-Law and GFs of GMs don’t need to be there. (My Future Mother-In-Law would probably bring Future Sister-In-Law, F-Aunts-and-cousins-IL), and it would be a zoo!

Post # 6
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My BMs, my mom, and my mother-in-law were there while we were getting ready.

Post # 7
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Hadn’t really thought about it, but probably me, my mom, my Maid/Matron of Honor (cousin) and my aunt (cousin’s mom).  Oh, and probably the flower girl too (cousin’s daughter).

Post # 8
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Let me try to remember who all popped by… lol!  It was my mom, my ladies, my Mother-In-Law, my 2 SIL’s, my flower girl, my dad popped by, and the photographer and videographer.  I think that’s all.  lol

Post # 9
1425 posts
Bumble bee

All up to you and who you feel most comfortable with.  Take space into account as well.

I got ready at my great aunt and uncles where we did the first portion of our photos, so really my parents, grandmother, Maid/Matron of Honor and great aunt and uncle were there in the AM and then my Aunt and cousin came a bit later to do my make-up.  So glad we did it because I just felt relaxed and comfortable in their home.

Post # 10
2067 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I had… My hair stylist (and her sister to help her), my BMs (2) and Maid/Matron of Honor, my FGs, my mom…. A few people stopped by (my dad, brothers, SIL to help with a BM’s daughters – the FGs- my MOH’s mom who was our DOC)… and my photographer was there obviously

Post # 11
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i got ready with my moh and my mom. My bridesmaids were in the same hotel but due to a mixup they were on a different floor from me

Post # 12
67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it mostly depends on the space & your relationships.  There’s a lot of commotion that day, so I plan to keep it to just my 2 BMs & my hair/make up artist (who also happens to be one of my best friends).  I’ll let my mom deal with the family, site coordinator & ensure everything is set for the ceremony/reception. Love my mom but she’s good at that & it’ll keep my stress level down to not have too many people swarming around.  🙂

Post # 13
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you will actually be using the space to get ready and you want more than one person with you, tell them to BE ready when they get there. Think about it 8 women getting ready in the same space at the same time? Products everywhere, girl stuff everywhere, ack! Plus MIL’s and flower girls peeking in? I will be ready when I get to my ceremony site and will have ONE Bridesmaid or Best Man with me to help me get ready:)

Post # 14
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think this depends on what kind of atmosphere you’re looking for while you get ready. I probably could have asked any number of people to be there (no wedding party) but I really wanted a quiet and relaxing morning, so it was just myself and my mother.

DH’s aunt came in to do my hair, and then she left. Photog snuck in for 10 minutes to shoot dress/accessories, then left. My father came back in to see me when I was all ready, then the photogs came back to bring me over to our first look.

I’ve been in weddings with 8-15 women all in the same place, doing hair/makeup/jewelry/dresses/eating/drinking/dancing, and it was sort of exhausting for me. If you want a more excited mood, more people would probably be better. For my situation wanting peace and quiet, just the two of us worked.

Post # 15
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

It’s up to you, but usually the bride’s side and the groom’s side keep separate, so you wouldn’t see your Future Mother-In-Law, etc. until the wedding, but do what you are comfortable with. I chose to just have my BMs and my mom, but my Dad of course came by towards the end for photos and to excort me down for the ceremony.

Post # 16
7901 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

PS, I think, personally, that it woul be really weird to incite the girl friends of your groomsmen. They aren’t part of the family or the wedding party and should be treated like normal guests in my opinion.

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