Post # 1
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Wannabee
My wedding is about 30 days away and my emotions are just all over the place right now. It started a few days ago when I just became really irritatable with Fiance. He hasn’t been doing anything out of the ordinary or anything like that I’ve just been getting really irritated at him super easily over little things he usually does. Then yesterday we were watching a tv show and the episode had the characters get married and I think that was my realization that I’m getting married in a month because my stomach just dropped and my emotions started rollercoastering. After I went home that night I was up literally all night, I only got maybe 4 hours of sleep because I just kept thinking about EVERYTHING going on in my life right now. It was as if every little stressor in my life just hit me all at once. I have been really sensitive lately but not to the point where I would actually cry (I’m not a cryer) but last night everything I thought about just made me burst into tears. Family issues, finding a job, wedding stuff like seating charts, signs, favors, flowers, hair trial that needa get done, and on top of that I had my first thoughts of whether or not this is the right thing to do. I’ve never questioned marrying my Fiance before because I do love him so much but ever since I realized the wedding is a month away I had so many questions running through my head like “What if I’m not a good wife?” “What if I regret getting married?” “What if we end up unhappy with each other?” I guess I was just looking to vent and get some reassurance that this emotional rollercoaster is normal right before the wedding? 🙁
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
I’m only a week from my wedding and I have been very stressed out and emotional for much of the last few months, for various reasons and stressors. I think it’s normal. Between all the extraneous drama, it hasn’t even fully hit me that I’m getting married and what that will entail.
What I can say to you (which is advice I should take myself) is that you should focus on the positive aspects of the wedding and planning process. This period of your life will soon be over and many of these stressors will be gone.
If you are having serious doubts about your Fiance, that’s another matter. But it doesn’t sound like you do, based on your post, and you are getting married for a reason! Try to enjoy every single moment and laugh off the stressful ones 🙂 these past few months have been the most stressful of my life, but I’m still standing and excited, deep down, for my wedding!
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
This honestly sounds like a case of pretty typical, harmless temporary cold feet. My cousin went through the same exact thing about a month before the wedding. She had a rough week, had some dark thoughts, and then snapped out of it and had an amazing wedding and is now very happily married.
Only you know if the thoughts you’re having are more than cold feet, but from what you’ve written it doesn’t sound all that alarming. It’s totally natural to be emotional when you have all these stressful things going on. I definitely know the feeling. I went through a really stressful time (not wedding related) about a month ago and it just made me feel like a volcano ready to erupt at any moment….the slightest thing would set me off. And I’m normally super easygoing and level headed.
anyway just take it one day at a time….this too shall pass!
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Helper bee
bbanony: I’m the same …. I’m used to being the organiser but suddenly I’m so tired of doing it and not having family around to help and Maid/Matron of Honor just caring about doing “her” and fiance taking forever (he is laid back) to do his couple of tasks and then there’s me doing it all. The only one feeling the pressure actually is my Mother-In-Law who has been really helping actuallY.
im currently crying like a loon in the bathroom because get this I asked for one thing from the shops – popcorn- and he bought everything but and I felt ahhh again I’m the only one that remembers and does things (rediculous and OTT I know ) and I read this and now at least I’m smiling that I’m not the only one!bim the same not sleeping as much and worrying about work and moving and being able to conceive and trying to get on property ladder and just so many things and family that are feuding. I just want my final week to be fun stressy and enjoyable with everyone. I usually just get it done and do it myself but suddenly I want families help and input and it matters not getting it.
yet all I’ve wanted was to be married to him and for this day to come so I don’t want all this stress and rollwrcoaster up to the day!
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