(Closed) Getting Separate Houses, but staying together

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
39 posts

Would you be able to see other people? How old is your son? I’ve never heard of anything like this before and in my eyes could be confusing/embarrassing for your son to explain to friends, but at the same time it’s no one’s business and at least you are happy..

Post # 4
3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t think my Fiance and I would ever consider it. I think it would be too difficult emotionally, but then again we’re one of those couples who likes to be together as much as possible. I also don’t think it would make sense for us financially and I would worry about how our pets and future children would handle it. I think it wouldn’t be a stable enough environment for them. Different strokes though..

ETA: Do you wonder if your son will find it confusing? It sounds kind of like a custody type schedule without the divorce aspect.



Post # 5
7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@MrsSmokey:  I can’t imagine my relationship being that way. It sounds similar to how a divorced family is structured, minus the family nights. Part of being a family unit is living life and experiencing things together. I really enjoy coming home to my husband. 

I, of course, am not judging you. You’ve found something that works for you and that’s great. I am curious though, what makes you not want to spend everyday together? Would separate rooms for sleeping in the same house work? I am not trying to tell you what to do, I’m genuinely curious 🙂 Also, how did your family and friends take the decision?

Post # 7
7813 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@sugarpea:  +1. We prefer being together all the time as well. And our poor boxer would hate having his environment changed constantly. We don’t even like one night apart and all our friends are the same too. 

Post # 8
7382 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Why?  Would having separate spaces in the same house not be enough for you?  DH and I had to have 2 places for a while and it sucked.

Post # 9
762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would never do this, mainly because I do not think it would be in the best interest of my son and could lead to confusion and/or other psychological problems.  I just think it is incompatible with the concept of marriage. 

Post # 10
3162 posts
Sugar bee

@MrsPanda99:  +1 

OP, how long have you guys been together? How old is your son? Not trying to change your mind, just curious.

Post # 11
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would never subject my child to this type of arrangement.  Whatever works, I suppose.

Post # 16
1935 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I don’t think this arrangment would work for us but I can see the appeal. At one point I think I said it would be nice to have two houses connected by a long hallway.

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