(Closed) Getting sick and tired of being sick and tired

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 1993

Nancy5683:  Embarrassed? NO! Who cares what others think! If they judge you because you are not engaged yet, then those people seriously don’t have a life.

How to keep possitive? Just be patient.  Sounds like you have an awesome guy and you guys are very much in love.  Don’t worry! It will come.

Post # 3
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Nancy5683:  just for some perspective, I’ve been with my Fiance 5 years. We got engaged last year. We will have been together 6 when we get married.  Your Boyfriend or Best Friend may just simply not be where you are yet, even though he talks about it. But, the fact that he talks about it is great.

However, I’m a little bothered by the inheritance comment. Just because someone comes into money, doesn’t mean they’re ready to propose. There are SO MANY bigger factors than money when getting engaged/married.

Also, I’ve been where you are, watching everyone else get married and engaged. Unfortunately, those feelings, are also no reason to get engaged. Its about the 2 of you-not anyone else. 

From the sound of it, your Boyfriend or Best Friend DOES know he wants to marry you, someday. Which is wonderful! Honestly? I’d just chill. 3 years is seriously a tiny blip in the grand scheme of things. And I do KNOW how you feel, because I’ve been there. But I will tell you this; my waiting? Paid off fully. I got an amazing surprise proposal, a gorgeous HUGE rock of a diamond, and now I’m planning my dream wedding. All because I backed off, and gave him his time. I trusted him. If you love your Boyfriend or Best Friend, my suggestion is, to stop pestering and obsessing, and trust him. Because from your post, you’ve told him EXACTLY how you feel-so he knows already.

Post # 4
594 posts
Busy bee

Nancy5683:  Waiting SUCKS. I waited for over three years (been together 4.5, lived together for 3.5). I never wanted a proposal – hell, I didn’t really want a ring. That was all my partner’s idea. It helped me a lot to view it as “taking one for the team”: I was doing something unpleasant (such an understatement) to make him happy. I’ll be blunt: the proposal wasn’t what was worth he wait – it was sweet, but totally unnecessary. Making my partner happy was what mattered.

Post # 5
2350 posts
Buzzing bee

Nancy5683:  Can I ask what the rush is? To me that’s not a very long time together and it seems mostly based on the fact that your friends are all getting married, also the way you refered to getting your “diamond” makes me think it might be peer influenced. I know you feel like you’ve been through “everything” together, but realistically you haven’t been together very long. Did most of your friends get engaged by this point or something? Your guy doesn’t seem afraid of committment, maybe he just wants to enjoy this part of your relationship, or save up for a ring, or feel more ready? My Fiance proposed right around our 6 year anniversary, which to me was perfect, I wouldn’t have been ready at a little over 2 years- maybe your guy is like us, wanting to invest a lot of time before making a lifelong committment?

Post # 6
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015


I agree, waiting can really suck. It’s a big challenge. It took me awhile to really accept that is about not just what I want…for some of us our partners have a set idea on ring and proposal. Enjoy giving them their moment. 

How old are you, if I may ask? 


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