Post # 1
As I am navigating the process of picking out a ring (or a few ideas) to help SO, one thing keeps sticking in the back of my mind – what I want is pretty similar to what a friend of ours has. They’re reasonably close friends (though not part of our ‘group’), SO and the husband are close from growing up. They got engaged almost two years ago, and until then, I hadn’t thought much about halos. After, that’s pretty much all I can think about 🙂
She custom designed her ring entirely herself, and I don’t want EXACTLY the same thing, but I’m feeling self concious about wanting the same diamond cut with a halo. Honestly, I think part of the reason it’s weighing on me is because she is probably my only friend who would even notice or possibly care about that kind of thing, no one else would. Also, halos are uber popular right now, so isn’t it kind of the thing as of late?
If it was a solitaire or something, obviously it wouldn’t be an issue. Thoughts? We are talking about a ring I’ll wear the rest of my life, I think I should probably just get over whatever I’m projecting that she’ll think. Just don’t want to be a copier!! (Even though that’s kind of the truth…) Thoughts?
ETA – We’re talking a cushion halo here, so nothing particularly original. I want an old stone as well, which is different. Might even do a different gold color.
Post # 3
I think you should get whatever ring you LOVE. It’s your ring, you need one that you’ll be happy with forever.
Post # 4
@Heartly: I think it’s fine. Is the center stone a really unique cut? Or a cut not usually seen in a halo?
As long as you don’t copy her ring exactly/take a photo of her ring to a jeweler to get a copy made, I think you are fine.
Like you said, halos are fairly popular right now so she can’t really expect to be the only one to have a halo.
Post # 5
@KatNYC2011: No, it’s a cushion. Which is definitely one of the most (if not THE most) popular in a halo. And hers is new and flawless, I want an antique chunkier stone, definitely won’t have that modern flashy look.
Post # 6
I agree with KatNYC2011 if it’s a standard round cut diamond in a halo it’s pretty common and nothing to worry about, but if it’s something unique like Nicole Richie’s octogan shaped cut with halo?? Then she may be upset. Either way, you should ask if she would mind that you got a ring inspired by her’s. Since she designed it herself completely she should be totally flattered, I know I would!
Post # 7
Halo rings are one of the most common rings right now. They are in fashion so lots of people have them. So long as it’s not an exact replica and YOU love it then I say go for it!
Post # 8
I wanted a cushion cut diamond in a halo too- I would definitely not think you are copying her at all!!!! Dont even second guess it!
Post # 9
Phew. Looks like consensus is that I’m in the clear. Which is good news, since SO literally asked me minutes ago to go ring shopping tomorrow!
Post # 10
I would say go for it and use this as a way to make sure there is no jealousy. My wedding set is similar to the one my best friend got for his wife. I emailed her and said that we were ring shopping, that I loved her ring, and really hoped she wouldn’t mind answering a few questions (spinning, ring width, any regrets). She was so flattered and I really loved her insight!
Post # 11
@Pollywog: Yeah, my only qualms with this strategy (which I think is great) is that I really don’t want to tip people off that we’re looking at rings if that makes sense. I actually sort of let it slip to a BFF, but I was hoping to keep it under wraps. Maybe I should just ask her though, they’re not friends with the rest of our group, so it’s not like everyone would know.
Post # 12
I agree with PP that its totally fine as long as it isn’t an exact replica. Halos have become pretty popular. In fact, of the 4 ladies I know who have gotten engaged this past year, 3 of them have halos.
Post # 13
I work in jewlery and I dont mind if someone buys my ring but wehen a girl I went to high school with( who I see ferquently) came in looking at a ring like mine I was furious!!! I made sure she picked a ring she loved but that it wasnt anything like my ring had she have bought my ring I probably wouldnt be speaking to her anymore. An my ring is not anything WAY diffrent or something I desgined.
Post # 14
Go for it! Get the ring you love the most, that makes your heart beat faster. In fact, if I were her I would be flattered that you were inspired by my ring. It’s really a compliment to her good taste.
Post # 15
Cushion halos are quite popular right now, so I wouldn’t worry about it. She custom designed hers, so I imagine whatever you get would have details that are different. If she gets upset over it, she’s just being petty. Hopefully she’ll understand that just as a cushion halo appealed to her, it could appeal to you.
Post # 16
Our best man went ring shopping and bought a ring for his fiance after my Fiance had bought my ring…without knowing it they bought very SIMILAR rings though they differ in some details. When “K” (our best man’s fiance) and I compared rings we laughed so hard. Its a good thing we get along and that all four of us are close. Point of this story? I don’t think its a big deal if you get a similar ring.