Post # 1
Hi All –
I’ve been lurking here for awhile and figured it was time to say hi!
Our wedding is soon (Oct 8) and I’m stressing about the RSVP’s
We were planning on having a 100 person dinner (some may think it’s tacky to not invite everyone to the dinner, but that is done a lot around here)
So we sent out slightly over 100 invites that included dinner (the remaining 30+ were for just the ceremony and reception)
Now, I’m getting REALLY nervous b/c I’m not getting many RSVP’s back. Total I probably have about 32 back so far.
What do I do? I mean I can’t go to people I didn’t orginally invite to the dinner and say “oh!gee, I must of forgot to include a dinner invitation, here is one 3 weeks before the wedding.”
I’ve decided to keep the same amount of tables but rather than sitting 8 at each, I’ll sit 6, which will hopefully help me avoid having empty tables.
It’s just so depressing, you start to feel like people don’t care.
Is it normal not to get many RSVP’s back?
Post # 3
@Radiochicky: Unfortunately, it is common for people to be boors and not reply.
What you need to do is recruit your family and FI’s family and yourselves and call people who haven’t replied yet. Get a firm answer from them. If you have less then 100 at the dinner then so be it. Etiquette does not support B-lists.
Post # 4
You need to call people and find out yourself if they’re coming.
Post # 6
I agree with the others – you need to contact everyone you haven’t received an RSVP from and find out if they’re coming. Surprisingly, most of the RSVPs we didn’t receive actually ARE coming (or said they are). I wouldn’t assume anything – make contact with everyone and let them know you haven’t received their RSVP and need an answer by (enter date). We only had a few that we had to make contact with more than once (and those were the ones who ended up saying no).
I would not invite “B list” guests at the last minute – I would be offended if someone did that to me (oh, now I’m good enough to attend?)