Post # 1
So I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor at my friend’s upcoming wedding, co-hosting her bridal shower with two fellow bridesmaids. We’re holding the shower at the bride’s aunt’s house, since none of us live in the area. We’re bringing all the food and decorations; her aunt is very kindly lending us her house. Should I be getting a thank-you gift for her aunt? I was already going to get a special mini-favour for the bride (a theme-appropriate vase full of flowers in her wedding colours, which would double as decoration during the shower and then she can take it home). Should I get a second one for the owner of the house as a thank-you, or is it really the bride’s job to thank all the hosts?
Post # 2
I think it would be appropriate of you AND the other hostesses to co-give a small hostess gift to the aunt, as you are using her house for it. All it really has to be is flowers, a bottle of wine, etc, nothing huge! So the vase of flowers would be quite in line.
I would say it would go to you to do it as the hostesses because you are technically ‘throwing’ the party, though I would say it would be appropriate of the bride to send a thank you card the aunt’s way afterwards.
I’m sure there’s an etiquette person who can comment on what’s technically ‘right’, but that’s what I would do.
Post # 3
If I were in your position I would definitely get the owner of the home a gift. Not necessarily anything crazy, but she is opening up her home to be used. I would want to show her how appreciative I was that she did that.
Post # 4
Is the aunt one of the co-hosts? if she is, then dont worry about getting her a gift – as a host, she’s chipping in her house. If she’s not. Then you really should get her a gift to thank her!
Post # 5
Yes a small gift would be very nice plus a thank you note.