(Closed) Getting the rings from the ring bearer?

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
1780 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What we are doing is this:

We will have our photographer put our rings on the pillow for a few snaps and then they will go in a pouch in FI’s best mans pocket….for the ceremony we will probably just have the ring bearer carry an empty pillow if we REALLY want the effects of the rings on the pillow we will put the sterling silver bands on the pillow and secure them because I don’t really care if they get lost they were $15 for both on ebay….

I think now days most ringbearers just carry the empty pillow for the looks of them carrying the pillow….IF you really want it done like that my guess would be have him walk to the best man who unties them quickly and holds them….but that just seems like it could go wrong….(ie the ring drops rolls away, people are scrambling to try and grab it….it just seems safer IMO to do it they way we are because my rings are expensive and so is FIs so yeah…..hope that helped!

Post # 4
1780 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014


eliseemma:  that’s why we are doing what we are….our ring bearer is well behaved but I thought about the fact that he would enter right before me….so that could be a distraction from the ceremony if it goes perfectly people would probably wonder what the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Ring Bearer are doing and miss part of the ceremony, or it could go the other way, a ring is dropped or they cant get it untied….it just seemed like a headache…..plus ive never seen in all the weddings I have been in and to it done that way….

Post # 5
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

eliseemma:  We trusted our 4 year old ring bearer with the rings. He brought them up on the pillow, Best Man untired them and handed them to us.

If you are nervous about your ring bearer dropping them (which mine did I later found out on my wedding video lol), just give the rings to the Best Man to hold on to instead.

Post # 6
1732 posts
Bumble bee

eliseemma:  Every wedding that I’ve worked has decoy rings carried by the ring bearer. The actual rings were held by the best man. 

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

eliseemma: I always wondered this too!

Haha my nephew is bummed that he doesn’t get to carry the real rings. Maybe I’ll just tell him he can’t because the best man (also his uncle) will have trouble getting them off the pillow. Makes it sound like it has nothing to do with our nephew. Which really it doesn’t! Our nephew is very enthusiastic. He wants a full tux and a hat. We’re thinking a hat will be too hot in August but we’re getting him the tux 🙂 he’s gonna be so excited!

Post # 8
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I had a ringbearer box instead of a pillow, and the box had two little pillows in it that the rings were loosely tied to.

The ringbearer gave the box to my Brother-In-Law (best man) who untied the rings when the time came and gave them to the officiant.

I went with a box because I figured it would be safer for carrying. It all worked pretty well for us.

Post # 9
2945 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


eliseemma:  Almost no one actually gives thier rings to the ring bearer anymore.  Infact, a lot of the ring pillows you will find already have fakes attached to them.  The first time our ring bearer was a ring bearer, he ended up swinging the pillow around his head.  Good thing they were fakes!  🙂

Post # 10
46653 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is almost no chance of losing the rings if someone ties them on right before the ring bearer heads up the aisle.

If you are concerned, you can get plastic silver or gold rings at most card shops, Michael’s, other craft stores etc.

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