(Closed) Getting through nights with newborn.

posted 4 years ago in Babies
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY

And yes, what PP have said, you’ll still have to pump in the motn, so it may not be the solution you’re looking for.

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ali-oop:  I hear you! My little guy is 2 but I still remember those early days! Congrats on your baby. There is no getting around it – the non stop nights are very very tough. A few days after my son was born I actually fell down the stairs I was such a zombie – luckily I wasn’t holding baby and I was ok. It’s not exactly the best laid biological design, caring for a helpless dependant brand new baby while you are in the most sleep deprived state of your life…fwiw I was the worst ever at sleeping when baby sleeps – I would lie down and be so over tired that my adrenilin would get going and I would lie there awake feeling like I was wasting time to get other things done.

I think I starting pumping bottles at a month. Same reason so that Darling Husband could do some feedings.  There’s that whole ‘nipple confusion’ thing where offering a breast, a bottle and a pacifier might cause baby to reject one or all. So they say wait a month. But of course every baby is different and you have to do what works for you.

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My munchkin has yet to be born, but one of the breastfeeding books i have (Breastfeeding Made Simple) strongly recommends “laid-back breastfeeding” because it makes it pretty easy to snooze while feeding your baby.  Might be worth Google-ing it and giving it a try.  Some great La Leche League handouts come right up.  

 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

The Time Of No Sleeping, I know it well! Went through that four times. Your babe should start sleeping more at three months latest. You just have to make it until then. It won’t kill you but it sure feels like it will. Hang in there, bee. This time goes by *so* fast. Take lots and lots of pictures and treasure it. You’ll look back on it fondly someday and it’ll be so bittersweet. You’ll remember how tough it was but you’ll want your newborn back regardless. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i waited too long with my first, so she never really took a bottle. with my second, the doctor said to pump and offer the bottle after 21 days. i did, and it worked perfectly. 🙂

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ali-oop:  dont know if its an option for you but we had a system where when Darling Husband got homke from work he would be on duty until his bedtime….so we’d eat dinner and I would go to bed until say 10-1030pm and then i would be on for the nightshift (as well as the rest of the day) but getting that 3 hours sleep was a lifesaver. We introduced a bottle with Boyfriend or Best Friend basically right away because we had to (DD was jaundice and I hadnt got my milk in yet) she never had any issues with nipple confusion. We used medela bottles. I was pumping right away to try to stimulate my supply but I never got much from pumping. If I really tried I could prob get one bottle from a few pumping sessions….some ppl the pump just gets its all out, but for others even if your exclusively Boyfriend or Best Friend pumping just doesnt work well! 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

I know this goes against most but nurse him in bed with you. Co sleeping can be a god send.  As long as you are not drinking or doing drugs you will be fine.  I did it with my 4, and you can nurse and sleep at the same time. Read the book ” The Family Bed”  It’s great! 

Post # 24
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Newbee

I know co-sleeping happens more often than not, even though we nurses try to educate parents on the dangers.  I’m sure 99% of the time it is fine and without problems. However, having attended a “code” last week of a baby whose mother fell asleep in a rocking chair, not even a bed, and smothered the baby, it DOES happen.  This baby was due to go home the next day, and instead, they have now attended her funeral.  I’m not going to preach…just a word of caution from someone who does see these tragedies as a part of her profession.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Those co-sleeper bassinets are a good middle of the road option too! You can sleep with baby, but put him back in his spot once you’re done feeding him and there’s no danger of smothering since you can’t fit in the bassinet even if you wanted to 😉

I’m planning on trying that with baby #2, at least for the first month or two so I’m not a zombie.  After that, my bed is mine!

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ali-oop:  ugh that sucks!

I never ended up going through that (the feeding every hour thing). There were times she would want to eat every 2 for a while but it didnt last long. I will say the mamaroo saved us. Dear Daughter would sleep in that thing forever (truthfully it was her bed for the first 12 weeks because she had severe reflux and we couldnt lay her flat) but from the first week I was actually having to wake HER up at the 3 hour mark to feed her (that was because of the jaundice) but she would sleep anywhere from 3 hours up to 5 hours….. if she was in the pack n play it would be like 30 minutes. 

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

after a few weeks I couldnt take it anymore and went with formula for one feeding / breast for the other. 

 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Don’t be afraid of giving baby a pacifier, or asking a friend to bring you dinner, or pumping, or giving a bottle of formula once in a while, or letting baby cry a little when Darling Husband is holding him while you sleep, or even putting baby on his belly for a nap during the daytime when you can monitor him. 

There’s so much mom-shaming and fear-mongering, but you will not ruin your baby. You NEED a three hour stretch of sleep to be a good mom and not a zombie. Your body needs it as much as it needs food and oxygen. Don’t just suck it up and keep going, your family needs you to sleep. 

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