(Closed) Getting tired of so many etiquette rules being broken! *vent*

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

With friends like that, who needs enemies! Her b-listing and not inviting your Fiance are her most heinous sins in my eyes, but a $200 hairstyle that you don’t even get a say in!?  She’s going to drain you dry by the end of all this! 

Honestly, and I really wouldn’t suggest this lightly, but this is one time where I think you would be 100% right to back out and refuse to pay another dime.  I’m on a budget, we all know brides on a budget, but when your budget it low, you adjust your plans accordingly- you don’t try to have all the trappings of a big wedding and stick it to your guests in the process.

Please back out and maybe give her a wake up call to her actions.  You can’t be the only bridesmaid in the party who is horrified by her behavior.  Who knows, you may start a chain reaction.  Bridesmaid strike!

Post # 5
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581 posts
Busy bee

Rude doesn’t being to describe her behavior.  I’ve never heard anything so thoughtless.  I’m sorry you have had to deal with this person.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow! I don’t care much for going by the “etiquette” rules but the things you talk about are just plain human decency! I’d tell her where to stick her $200 hairdo, but that’s just me.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

I’m going to be blunt, why are you friends with her?  Has she behaved this way in the past?  This is more than poor etiquette.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

For the hair appointment, I’d just tell her you are not available and have made other arrangements.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m not  a stickler for etiquette, but she is violating common human decency. You are not crazy and she is quite nuts in my opinion.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

can you at least negotiate the hair up do?  i’m still in shock about it being $200. i read about another girl’s hair costing an arm and a leg because the bride had decided to rent out the salon and have the bridesmaids pay for that AND for the bride’s hair in addition to their own hair.

Post # 12
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Wow. Nope, you are not over-reacting, she is being rude. I think some brides take the “my day” thing to a whole new level!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@summerlove22: I agree…that is a bridezilla for sure…a cheap bridezilla to boot!! Since it’s so close to the wedding, it’s probably too late to back out but you can certainly refuse to pay $200 for an updo. Let the bride know that if she wants you to wear a specific style then she has to pay for it. Otherwise you will get your hair done at a place of your choosing for a more reasonable price.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

completely rude. i would just bring fi. and get my own hair done. and if she doesnt like it explain to her how rude and inconsiderate she has been.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

wow. just WOW.

yeah thats beyond rude…..

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