(Closed) Getting tired of so many etiquette rules being broken! *vent*

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
3930 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

all this and you aren’t allowed to drink?????? oh HELL no.

Post # 48
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


IMO, she is not just showing poor etiquette; she sounds like a crappy person.


Sorry you have to deal with that; I really hope my friends will bop me on the head if I ever go that crazy about my wedding!

Post # 49
22 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

Are you even going to be friends with this woman after the wedding? No? Then definitely back out NOW. Even if you have mutual friends, there is no way you are obligated to jump through this woman’s hoops. And if she’s mad at you, so what? She is not your friend!

Tell her that your grandparents are celebrating their 50th anniversary that day–or some other important excuse–and say goodbye to this trainwreck of a wedding.

Maybe the other bridesmaids will be emboldened by you and also jump ship 🙂

Post # 50
2385 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

I don’t think a bride has to invite a date for her bridesmaids… but I do think it’s ridiculous not to invite a bridesmaid’s Fiance. I don’t think that’s optional.

Personally, when it came to hair, I offered to set up appointments, and felt really guilty that I couldn’t afford to pay for them. If people wanted to do their own hair or find their own stylist, that was fine with me (and 3 of 5 girls did just that). I can’t imagine insisting on everyone getting a $200 hairstyle and not ponying up for it, though.

Post # 51
168 posts
Blushing bee

WOW!  All these shenanigans, and you aren’t going to be able to drink and you can’t bring your FI?

This is ridiculous.  Who does this girl think she is?

Good for you for sticking up for yourself on the updo issue.  Now, fight with her until she lets you sit at dinner with your Fiance.

Rude doesn’t even begin to describe it.  Crazy comes closer….

(((hugs))) for you, it will be over soon!!

Post # 52
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone fails at some point or another when it comes to etiquette. I am an etiquette teacher and even I have failed to be perfect, but this is beyond ridiculous! Her behavior is just flat out rude. Number one rule of etiquette is to treat others with honor, dignity and respect and she has failed, failed, failed!

Post # 53
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow, it sounds like you have found a real life bridezilla.  That word is usually over used and misapplied, but there is no other name for what she’s doing.  Tell me, have you noticed television cameras following her around, lol?

Seriously though, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this.  Good luck and I hope you get through it with as little more money put out as possible.  I wonder if she even realizes that she’s not going  to have any friends left after the wedding?

Post # 54
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow, she sounds crazy.  But at least you don’t have to spend 200 bones on an updo! yey!

Post # 55
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

WOW .. WOW!!  I am in awe that someone could be soo rude and selfish. I have to commend you though, this post says alot about you as a person, the fact that even though she would have enough time to either find someone else or work it out you still choose not to step down. She is lucky to have you and I hope some day she can look back and realize that.


Post # 56
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

WOW! That bride is beyond rude! I’m not big on most wedding etiquette but inviting people to come after dinner is just too much. If you cant afford dinner for everyone dont invite them! And the hair for $200 is just CRAZY!

Post # 57
1 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, follow your gut instincts! You should back out now!! If you are not close to her, its insane of you to be putting up with it! She needs a wake-up call, and yeah it might strain your relationship but to me it already sounds like there’s not a very strong one between you two. She needs to be on bridezillas!

Post # 58
9 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

oh wow! I’m afraid your friend is a princess! it sounds like she has gotten what she wants, when she wants it with no regard for others, and other peoples financial situations, or feelings!! I’m the “brutally” honest type of person that would stand up for myself, and have a few (all be it kind) words to her about her behavior, and if that didn’t help I probably would back out.  But not everyone would do that.

 I’m glad you stuck up for yourself about the hair! but you really need to stand up about your Fiance, and some of her other demands!!  She needs a reality check!! Even her “rules” seem rediculous, what you can’t have a celebratory glass of champagne? since when did weddings become dictatorships? She somewhere lost the whole point of having a wedding and it means. If someone wrote “bring your check book” on the bottom of an invitation for anything, I would refuse to attend. maybe send a little note with the definition of the word “gift”…


Post # 59
5113 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

Wow, that isn’t even etiquette, that is just plain common courtesy!  I’d drop out of this wedding in a heartbeat.

Post # 60
278 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

This beyond “bad etiquette”. It is just flat out inconsiderate and rude to treat anyone, let alone good friends, that badly. I feel for you. Is the bride normally this selfish and thoughtless, or is this new? Regardless of whether you bail on the wedding or not (and I understand that it might be worse to bail than stay in at this point), I would certainly phase this woman out of your life afterward.

Post # 61
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i’d drop out of the wedding and cut her loose you don’t need “friends” like that…and where are her parents for allowing her to act this way…

you’re totally justified…

ABC Family’s new movie Revenge of the Bridesmaids you and the other girls should watch it together lol

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