(Closed) Getting very irritated with wedding planning..thinking about giving up

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

First just take a minute and take a breath. Secondly remember why you are getting married in the first place. Next take ten minutes to make a checklist of everything that you Have gotten done and what you still need to do. ( I find that has helped me take some of the pressure off of myself, seeing everything that I have gotten done written down gives me the motivation to finish the things off that still need to be done. )

Is there a reason that you chose to change your weedding date? If you really are not happy with your new date can you change it back? You are getting married for yourself and not for anyone else. It is your day and you should have what you want. No matter what your budget or timeline is, there is always a way to get what you want. 

Post # 5
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@misssydneyj: I am sorry that you are having to deal with this on your own, it definetely makes it harder to enjoy the whole process of planning. I do think that you should take a little of your FI’s attitude and plan things like you want them to be (for the people who are picky about transportation if they don’t like what you have picked out you can always give them the contact info for a rental car agency and they can find their own way).

   My Fiance isn’t into the whole planning thing, basically all he says is “if that’s what you want then we will do it” or “just let me know how much it will cost”. Sometimes that has made things easier though, I didn’t have to consult him about the flowers, DJ, timeline, BM’s dresses, or tuxes. (seems to have made things move along faster that way) 

   It sounds like you already have some of the big things knocked off of your list though, Venue – check, engagement pics – check ( are you going to use the same photographer for the wedding, if so then Photographer – check) Have you found your dress yet? Or your BM’s dresses? 

    And don’t forget you still have six months to nail down all of the little things. Everything will work out (really it will), you just need to take it one project at a time. 🙂


Post # 7
14 posts

Sounds like you are all frazzled out and have way too much going on.

first breathe and collect you thoughts. See what you have already accomplished and what need to be after wards. write it down and draft up a time line. It will help kepe thing in presepctive and allows you to deal with one thing at a time instead of getting side tracked with all the problems

You have already

1. Booked the ceremony location

2. Booked the recepetion

3. Booked the engagement pictures.

Now you have to see what you needs to be done now. Since you have it in April and its now October you have 6 months which is enough time since its a small ceremony and you already have the big things out of the way. Just concentrate problem on an individual basis.

With the transportation problem, since i don not knowthe details, maybe you can Book/block nearby rooms, since its 6 hours away the guest can come in the night before. If the hotel is far maybe you can arrange a shuttle from the hotel to the venue.

Also maybe you should sit down with your guy and explain to him the reason WHY all of this is stressing you out. Hopefully that will make him more supportive of what you are going through.

I hope everything works out, Don’t get too stressed. In the end as long as you are happy that is what matters.

Post # 9
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

dont give up! I almost did too! I had had it! too much pressure! He ended up taking over for me though. after meltdown #2 we booked a bunch of stuff and I felt better. I really really hope that stress goes away for you!

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