(Closed) getting your feelings hurt over wedding reactions?

posted 11 years ago in Family
Post # 32
Member
8 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am shocked at how rude people can be! Thankfully our families have not had a problem with the no children rule for our wedding (at least not one that has been brought to our attention). So far, I’ve had one cousin (with 5 kids) tell me she couldn’t wait for the wedding bc it means a night away for her and the hubby, and my grandmother is enjoying the idea of it bc she is scared she might trip on a child while walking/trying to dance hahaha. The only person who has said anything negative about the no kids rule has been my fiances cousin, but I didn’t take it to heart bc she just had a baby (Feb 5th) so her daughter will be less then 3 months old at the time of the wedding… I can’t blame her for saying she prob won’t be coming! 

I wonder why people feel the need to be so negative about not being able to bring their children? I’m sure if they were asked to pay for their childrens places at the reception, then they wouldn’t have a problem with leaving them home!! I mean, if you can leave your kids with a babysitting while you go on a date with your hubby, then you can leave them with a babysitter while you go to a wedding, even if it means you need to leave the reception an hour or 2 before it ends. And at 14 & 15 years old, give me a break, they can handle their parents being gone for a few hours. They would probably enjoy it!

Post # 33
Member
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

What has bothered me most so far (but we’ve only been engaged for a month!) is friends’ reactions to our engagement.  You can’t say “congratulations I’m happy for you?” before you start ‘sarcastically’ ‘joking’ about how “it’s about time”?  Yeah, that wasn’t funny the first time, it’s still not funny when you’re the fifteenth person to say it.  And don’t get me started on “are you pregnant”.   Hilarious.  Sometimes things like congrats are a cliche because they’re the right thing to say.  Wow, I didn’t realize that bothered me so much. Luckily our families were thrilled and couldn’t be nicer. 

And for a twist on the child-free wedding, my mother was the one who asked if we had to invite the children or if we could leave them off so we didn’t have to pay.  Um, they’re on the guest list because I put them there.  And there are like two toddlers and three babies, none of whom need counting in the caterer’s budget.  I wouldn’t be surprised if the toddlers get left at home, anyway, for their parents to have a nice afternoon out.  Why do people not understand that the couple has made a conscious choice, and respect it?  Is it really so complicated? 

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