(Closed) Gettng married in PA by a friend who has been ordained by ULC???? valid???

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: So, how would you proceed?
    Take the risk! Am sure it will turn out ok in the end. : (5 votes)
    56 %
    Hire a Justice of the Peace or Judge to perform our ceremony instead of my uncle. : (0 votes)
    Get married by a Judge the day before and have uncle perform personal ceremony the day of anyway. : (4 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    We’re getting married in Philly with an ordained friend and I’m somewhat concerned about this since it does differ county to county.

    However, PA is unique in that it’s the only state that allows a self-uniting license, where you can actually “marry yourselves” and just have your uncle perform the ceremony for posterity. Again, some counties allow this and some don’t.

    I’m not THAT worried about our wedding because Philadelphia County seems to be much more lenient about this. But if worse comes to worst, we might hit up City Hall a few weeks before our wedding day to make sure it’s legit.

    Post # 4
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    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    This is an interesting post. My G’ma is an ordained minister with the Universal Life Church and she married us. We got our marriage certificates from Chester County but got married in Northampton County and we have had no problems with it. Hopefully we never will. My G’ma verified with Northampton county that she was indeed eligibe to marry us as she has been marrying people in Florida for some time now.

    Post # 5
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    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I forgot that if you are really worried about it you can do the third option. That is what my sister did for her wedding. Like I mentioned before, I just had my G’ma do it with no backup. If an issue arises we will handle it.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Just taking a look at the law here, my guess is that the courts in Penn will end up ruling that the marriages are valid. In addition, the only reason that the first couple in this whole thing had their marriage invalidated was because they sought a divorce, and one of them argued they were never married.

    Post # 8
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    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    No, we did not. I am assuming the disclaimer is new?

    Post # 9
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    1566 posts
    Bumble bee

    We are in this same situation. We’re going to take the risk and have our friend marry us. 

    Post # 10
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    3316 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I would seriously recommend either using the self-uniting ceremony, or just having the paperwork taken care of at the courthouse and then having whatever ceremony you want.  The problem is that if you take the risk, you probably won’t find out until your husband dies or wants a divorce that you were never legally married.  At that point, you won’t have the rights you thought you had, and there will be no way to fix it.

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