Ghosted by a photographer?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Well, it’s been three days. I wouldn’t be that worried about it. Did he say anything about what to do next after you met with him Saturday? 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

That is really odd, but I have had that problem too.  Our photographer for our engagement photos is a photographer on the side, and he has a full time job.  It often tooked a few days for him to get back to us.  It helped that we were friends with him, so we had facebook, email, and phone numbers.

I would suggest waiting until saturday because it could definitely be a work issue, and if you keep e-mailing him you could come across as really demanding.  If you don’t hear from him by saturday, maybe try calling him, and if that doesn’t work, I would send him another e-mail saying that you would love to book him, but if you don’t hear from him by a certain date you will have to start looking elsewhere.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

I think you could give him a little more time in this case. At least a full week. I’ve noticed I’m not that tolerant with vendors that don’t reply in a reasonable time (at least acknowledge my msg and lmk you’ll get back to me soon) but I give it two weeks before moving on.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Your wedding isn’t for over a year, and it’s only been three days. Your photographer is probably busy focusing on the weddings coming up this summer. Or is it possible he’s on vacation?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I would give him a week. I am cautious though as we had to fire our videographer because they completely stopped all communication then we gave them a second chance and it happened again. We are 60 days out from our wedding and are now interviewing new videographers. You have to figure out if communication is that important to you, would you be ok waiting a week or do you want answers within 24 hours. In our case it took 2 months before we got a response and we didn’t have that much time to wait the second time, so now we are only dealing with videographers who are getting back to us quickly. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Have you read many reviews on the photographer by the way? My sister had a very similar experience, and it turned out to be repetitive behaviour, even ghosted couples on their wedding day. Do your due diligence, but perhaps something came up or he’s on holiday for a few days. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

bee1988canada :  just chill. i understand appreciating quick responses, but it’s entirely possible that he went on vacation/had a family thing/got sick, etc. it’s been THREE DAYS, not three weeks. give him until the end of the week, and then send another follow-up email.

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

bee1988canada :  I would definitely give him a few more days. Speaking as a wedding photographer, I can tell you that during busy season I often take Monday/Tuesday off. Why? Because I’m working all weekend. Wednesdays for me are like most people’s Monday’s – so I come back into the office with a ton of emails and calls to return as well as just general office work to do. I try my absolute hardest to make it through all my emails first thing, but sometimes I just don’t make to every single one. If I start returning phone calls and people suck me into 45 minute conversations about their wedding….that just adds up. I think it’s hard for people to remember sometimes that wedding vendors do not have typical hours.

If in a couple of days you still haven’t heard from him, I’d say it’s probably best to move on to someone else. While I prefer the honest route, and just tell a couple that I don’t think we’re a good fit after we’ve had a chance to meet….it’s possible he just doesn’t want your wedding and is avoiding tell you. That’s really crappy of him to do, but it’s possible.

ETA: I know you said that a reply within a few hours was the norm the past few weeks you’ve been talking to him. But 2-3 weeks ago wasn’t prime wedding season. May starts our super busy season. I know how busy *I* am, and I”m full time with my business. You mentioned he does this on the side, and unfortunately, communication is one of the problems you run into with people who do this in addition to a full-time job.

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