(Closed) Ghosts Bfs Past!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

It used to happen to me all the time, but he stopped after a couple of years. I’m glad to see you are smart enough to stay away from him, good for you!

Post # 5
5667 posts
Bee Keeper

I’m still friendly with most of my exs but one of my more serious ones (the only one I lived with) lost his marbles when I first got engaged. Crazy drunk texts and calls in the middle of the night, etc. I ignored it and I think he’s given up.

Post # 6
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I had it happen to me “sort of”…he reached out to me apologizing for things he had done to me and was happy that I had found someone and looked like I was in a happy relationship…uh yeah thanks but NO THANKS A-HOLE! Actually, I was nice to him just because I don’t have any hard feelings towards him anymore since I am completely moved on…even though he was so controlling I wasn’t allowed to EAT in front of him (he thought it was gross to see a woman eat)…this amongst other things…oh the joys of learning from your mistakes.

Post # 8
4325 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@Dell79:  Yikes. Sounds like a huge jerk. I hope you didn’t stay with him too long!!!


I have one of those clingers from the past too, even now that I’m married, I have gotten a phone call from this dude. Usually I ignore him, but felt compelled to answer my phone after I got married since he told me when I was engaged that my Fiance “was only temporary.” I didn’t like that at all, so I wanted him to get the point that my HUSBAND was not going anywhere, and he should just leave me alone. 

The worst part is that this guy treated me badly and sort of left a negative impact on me from cheating so much. I’m still working on the trauma of that one. Yuck.

Post # 10
9737 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes, I have had a similar experience.  After explaining a couple of times that I am happy, in love, committed and faithful I gave up and started ignoring him.  That put a stop to it, finally.  Sometimes just a response at all gives them enough ammo to keep going, but by ignoring them they eventually get bored and give up.  If it gets too bad you may have to consider getting a restraining order, or at least threaten one.

Post # 11
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’ve been there. It took three years for him to stop sporadically calling me from random numbers. And he still talked to my mama last time he was in town (last year). Luckily he has moved four states away now and is supposedly getting married. Haven’t heard from him in a year.

Post # 12
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Ignore, ignore, ignore. This is the only tactic and it will work eventually!

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