- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
Same thing happened to me (no GD either) and I ended up with a c-section and a 9 pounder. It all worked out fine though. We’re just wanting healthy babies no matter their size or exit plan:)
A C-Section is NOT the end of the world. If your doctor believes it’s the healthiest way to get your baby out, then that’s what you do. I would ask your OB if they’ll let you go into labor to see if your body can birth the baby if she ends up being on the bigger side. Because a larger baby is not a medical emergency, you won’t be able to schedule a CS until you’re 39 weeks anyways. Giving birth is just one of the thousands of things you’ll do FOR YOUR CHILD in her life. It’s not about you anymore so toss your “birth plan” and make decisions based on what’s best for you, not what your plans were. Plenty of us had horrific complications where we’re lucky to be here still that worrying about a birth plan just sounds so narcissistic.
Sorry about your shower but I honestly can’t believe everyone bought you newborn sized clothes. That’s such a waste since babies – even 6-7 lb babies- are maybe in NB clothes for 4-6 weeks and then they’re in 0-3 for a few months. I had a 9 pounder and we were in NB clothes for about a week or 10 days. Then moved on to 0-3Mo. Can you exchange anything for bigger sizes? There’s no need to go crazy bagging it up and tossing it if you can exchange, resell, etc.
Ppregnancy has its ups and downs but if you’re having more down days, please please speak to your GP and OB. Post-partum depression seeds are planted during pregnancy so you may need help managing your feelings of indifference / not caring about your baby.
Yeah I have no idea what your doctor is talking about. If you think you’re going to have to have a c section regardless, why on Earth would your Dr want an early c section as oppose to a c section at 40 weeks??!
I don’t understand any of this. My baby was measuring at 11+ lbs. No one was suggesting a c-section. I’m 5’2” and not a big person by any means. I went over as well: 41+3.
My son was born weighing 9 lbs. I had a c-section, but not due to his size; due to his position and failure to progres. It was great! I really had an excellent experience.
As for the newborn clothes, my son didn’t really fit into the 0-3 or 3 month clothes when he was born, even at 9 lbs. I had known I wasn’t having the smallest baby so I didn’t have many newborn clothes. My husband ran out to Toys ‘R’ Us the day we brought him home to buy whatever newborn clothes they had on sale…. So don’t pack those up just yet.
My sister in law delivered a baby just a few weeks ago. She was in the same situation as you and when she delivered the baby weighed 8lbs 4 ounces, almost a pound smaller than projected and she also had a natural birth and everything was great
Recommending a section on a first birth regardless of size unless the mother is at a true risk is asinine and not ok. Suggesting the mother “throw out” newborn clothes is also bizarre. I’m concerned about OPs mental health, and I’m concerned about her doctor as he or she is not calming OP.
The Bees are here to help you get through this next few weeks. Hugs.
Bees, I think I needed a cool down period. I do have a history of depression and anxiety. I had to go off my meds to have a healthy pregnancy so coping without them is very hard. I do see my mental health Dr. On a bi monthly basis for check ins though.
My husband and I worked so hard for this baby girl. She is our rainbow baby, a true miracle. After an emergency call to my mental health Dr. I realize I don’t resent my daughter so much as I resent my changing and now very uncooperative and painful body and I am having trouble letting go of the birth i envisioned. And I blamed the first person, my daughter. And she’s not the problem. I am.
I’ve also had body issues in the past and seeing myself go from healthy fit 140lbs to I don’t even want to say how big is a challenge for me. My mental health Dr believes lack of sleep and sheer exhaustion caused mybreakdown today but I’ve scheduled a visit tomorrow anyway to discuss my feelings.
I am upset that my birth plan didn’t work out as planned but if my Dr. thinks it’s what’s best for her, I have to go with his judgement. I will be 39 weeks when I’m scheduled. They are just waiting till my next visit on Xmas Eve to schedule it in case anything changes. They don’t want to jump into it. My Dr doesn’t believe my pelvis is large enough to accommodate such a large baby and he thinks it would be dangerous for both of us to try to deliver her naturally.
He did tell me to abandon all newborn clothes though so that did make me sad to pack them up. But I’m not donating them just yet because there is still a chance she could fit into some. Unfortunately my family removed tags from all the clothes they gave me (I don’t want to ask for receipts because I don’t want to look ungrateful) so I will donate what doesn’t fit her to my church.