Post # 61
Hi I know I’m late to the party but I just wanted to let you know you can do this! My first baby was 9lbs 2oz at 41 weeks. Her brother weighed a whopping 10lbs at barely 38 weeks. Both were born with no epidural and maybe 2 stitches. I pushed for less than 15min with each. Your body just might surprise you 😊
Post # 62
- Wedding: June 2007 - City, State
your most recent update is reassuring. Please stay in touch with your psychiatrist. If you need sleep that badly, take a benadryl or something. It also helps with anxiety. I’m 24 weeks with my 4th and have taken it here and there when needed, including tonight. Talk to your psychiatrist about this. Benadryl is class A last time I checked.
Don’t give up on your birth plan just yet. You sound fit, but not overly petite. Your dr is not even giving your body a chance to do what it is meant to do. And in my experience women who were fit pre pregnancy have better labor experiences.
A csection is not necessarily the answer. Advocate for yourself. Have your husband advocate for you. Hire a doula. You need someone else to speak some positivity into you and stand up to your doctor.
I have had 3 sections. I am about to have my 4th. With my first I had pre eclampsia that was negligently missed, by the time i was told to come in for induction, my baby was in grave danger. With my 2nd, I gave birth in new Jersey. They had the highest csection rate in the country. No one would entertain a vbac within 2 hours of me. That sealed my fate.
Csections can have consequences. They are necessary sometimes. Please, please explore your options. Look for a doula. You truly need support. Don’t pack those newborn clothes up until you have the baby. You don’t know how big she will be until she is out and weighed.
Post # 63
It sounds as if your doctor has not yet made this decision and is describing possibilities, that this decision will not be made for some weeks. You may still indeed have a vaginal delivery. Do consider a second opinion.
The clothing comment was unnecessary and possibly untrue–a dick move on his part–he may not have even realized that what could have been a joking, off the cuff comment would result in you actually packing up all of the clothes.
Perhaps your psych can have a conversation with your OB about how to best address any concerns given your anxiety. There are some things you can do and some things you can take to help you get through the rest of your pregnancy more comfortably, from meditation apps to massage and acupuncture to sleep aids and safer medications. Self care is important. Lack of sleep does not go away when the baby is born.
Your body is doing something incredible and with that there are changes. Some of those changes may remain as a reminder of the amazing thing you’ve done. You can do this, Bee.
Post # 64
My baby was measuring very big and my OB gave me the option to schedule a c-section at 39 weeks, but left it totally up to me. I decided to go for it. I was over being pregnant and my instincts told me it was the right choice and I have never looked back. It wound up being a great experience for me. The birth was super serene and recovery was no big deal. DS was 8 lb 12 oz and lost a lot of weight at first, so newborn clothes fit for a little while. I am now 34 weeks with my second and I’m incredibly uncomfortable too but we have just a few weeks to go. (I’m having a repeat c section.). It’ll all be worth it, I promise. Once you’re holding that sweet baby, you won’t care how she got here. Good luck and hang in there.
Post # 65
- Wedding: June 2007 - City, State
With all due respect, you are the exception and not the rule. Do not tell someone who has never had a section that recovery is no big deal. That’s like telling a woman a vaginal birth does not hurt. I would trade every single csection I had for a vaginal birth if it meant healthy children. Csections are not natural. And it wasn’t until my second csection that I developed major problems, like nerve damage, endometriosis, and autoimmune problems. Yep, endometriosis can be caused by csections, infact it’s fairly common, and now I have it. There’s a whole host of risks and side effects associated with having your abdomen cut into, once and repeatedly. Unfortunately this is how my babies were born and it is what it is. All of them have food allergies, which are also common in csection babies.
OP, people birth 9lb babies vaginally all the time. Please find a doula or midwife to speak to. Good luck.
Post # 66
OP, it will all be ok. Sounds like your doing a great job growing a healthy baby.
FWIW, I’ve never heard of a growth scan being accurate for anyone. My SIL was told her baby was too big to deliver and they were scheduling a C Section as she was past her due date. She went into labor naturally and gave birth vaginally to a 10 pound baby who was seriously the longest baby i had ever seen.
Sounds like your doctor is jumping the gun a bit. Perhaps remind him of your anxiety and ask him to settle down.
As for the clothes, tbh, i dont know of any babies except preemies that were in newborn clothes for more than a couple of weeks. Newborn diapers are so tiny that any well fed baby will outgrow them quickly.
Post # 67
I was very glad to read that you contacted your mental health professional because when I read that you resented your sweet baby girl, I was ready to rip you a new one.
I’m 36 weeks and have lost all tact, so sorry for being so blunt. My OB doesn’t tell her patient’s the actual weight of the scans because like everyone said, they are notoriously inaccurate.
I really am surprised your docs made you stop your psych meds. There is a lot of evidence that having the mom continue them is much better overall.
In the grand scheme of things, so what if your birth plan doesn’t go as you wanted. Honestly, I think making one is just setting yourself up for disappointment if things have to deviate (which they usually do) so I don’t understand why women have them.
I think having your mental health professional contact your OB is a good idea.
Post # 68
I posted about my own experience. You are free to post about yours.
Post # 69
Please do not assume you cannot have the baby naturally. It’s nuts to me that a doctor would not even try based on scans that are notoriously…I repeat…NOTORIOUSLY inaccurate. I’m very glad to hear you’re working through the anxiety, but I really would consider looking at another OB. I know its late in the game, but honestly just getting a second opinion may give you some confidence in which direction to go. Seriously, I cannot stress how inaccurate those scans are.
I also had a lot of body issues going into my pregnancy. I spent my childhood very overweight and managed to lose a bunch of weight and feel “normal” for the first time in my life as an adult…before getting pregnant. A lot of the weight will come off with no effort on your part. Some people lose it all without trying! I was not so lucky, but it wasn’t nearly as difficult as losing weight from just eating and lack of exercise. It’s just different, and you will feel good about yourself again.
Hang in there.
Post # 70
I’m 36 weeks pregnant and similarly dealing with the consistent analysis by the doctors that the baby is “big”. I’m trusting them to be fairly accurate but also trying to just go with the flow. If a c section is recommended I will probably go with it but so far it hasn’t been suggested at all. I think it’s ridiculous how many people gave me newborn and zero to three month clothes but my husband and I are planning to just not bother washing them until baby has gone through wearing them all and if some of them never fit – oh well! Kind of funny really. I’m glad to hear about your counseling appointment. Also rest assured you are not alone!
Post # 71
yes! 95% if the clothes I recieved at my baby shower were newborn. And unfortunately my family removed the tags so I can’t return it exchange them for clothes that fit I also received 5 that’s FIVE boxes of newborn diapers and yet of them were opened (used to make a diaper cake and have me the tere) so I’m going to see if I can exchange the other 3 for size 2 and 1.
Post # 72
I agree with that and so does my Dr. But I’ve gotten more scans than the average woman because of a few complications in the beginning and the last 3 growth scans showed her measuring in the 97th percentile each time. My Dr said normally he wouldn’t agree with the scans but since she’s measured large every time there is significantly less margin for error.
Post # 73
Bee, I’m worried about you and I’m worried that your doc is an idiot.
I would get a second opinion from a different OB.
Post # 74
Even if the baby is measuring in the 97th percentile, it is rare – VERY RARE – for a woman’s pelvis to be unable to accommodate a 9 lb baby. That just isn’t that big, and it isn’t outside the parameters of normal. Add to that the fact that third trimester weight estimates can be 15% off, and it is madness to automatically schedule an elective surgery without attempting vaginal birth. While there is nothing wrong with c-sections when necessary (I had to have one of my three children via c-section), it is actually good for the baby to come through the birth canal. Children born vaginally have a lower risk of asthma and allergies due to the bacteria they are exposed to. Those bacteria have digestive and immune system benefits that can last much longer than previously thought.
Again, there is nothing wrong with a c-section when it is necessary, and I am thankful they are available. But to jump to the conclusion that you cannot naturally deliver from scans is ridiculous. The bones and connective tissues move during birth. That’s why small women can give birth to large babies. You cannot see that on a scan – indeed, most women’s bone structure looks incapable of accommodating just about any baby before labor actually takes place.
Post # 75
no reason to panic. These are estimates… and normal. Having had both vaginally (foreceps) and emerg csec, I can tell you all you hope for is healthy baby n mommy.