Post # 76
daniellemc : Bee, I’ve read all of your updates and your doctor still sounds nuts. Please please get a second opinion or insist at least on a trial of labor. There’s no reason why you can’t attempt to labor naturally, just get an epidural so you are ready for an “emergency” c-section. I put emergency in quotes because in the case of a baby being too big, it usually really just means unplanned. Like, they decide you need one, prep you, and take you down to the OR….not running you madly down the hall. C-sections are amazing for medically necessary situations (I had one that saved my son’s life), but there are real risks to you and baby that aren’t to be taken lightly. Plus having a c-section for your first birth really increases risks in your subsequent pregnancies. A suspected big baby is not a medical emergency. You shouldn’t be afraid to have one at all, but there’s no need to jump right to it without trying to deliver naturally first.
Post # 77
Pregnancy sucks and for some so does birth. I was in the both sucks category. When it comes to birthing, I’m of the mindset that some people have good vaginal births and some of have bad ones – likewise for c-sections. It’s really a gamble. Since lots of PP’s have shared best case scenarios for vaginal births and worst case scenarios for c-sections, I thought I would share a worst case vaginal birth. My baby was 9lbs 10oz and got stuck during vaginal delivery due to his size (baby measured a bit large at 20 weeks but my stomach measured below average so doctors were expecting a 7 pounder). After 3 unsuccessful attempts with the vacuum, the doctors broke my baby’s collarbone. Between the hematoma from the vacuum, the collarbone and mec in my amniotic fluid my baby was taken to the NICU for about a week. I had 5 seconds with him and didn’t get skin to skin until the next day. The head doctor told me I was lucky that my son didn’t get brain damage. I had a second degree and a first degree tear and my second degree tear was so swollen that it didn’t get stitched up correctly so now I have to go for plastic surgery. At 8 days post partum, I got a kidney infection from a silent UTI. While I luckily didn’t get ppd, I did mourn the fact that I didn’t get to breastfeed, that my baby didn’t fit into newborn sized clothing and that all I could dress my baby in was sleepers because one arm had to be immobilized. Prior to birth, I had so many people tell me how bad c-sections were that I did what I could to avoid one. C-sections aren’t evil, they’re designed to avoid situations like mine.
It seems like you’re open to whatever goes now that you’ve had a chance to wrap your mind around it and if you want to try for a vaginal birth, that’s ok too – just be sure to find out the point in which if the birth starts going bad that you need to advocate for a c-section.
Also, FWIW, after I came to terms with it, having a bigger baby has been amazing in so many ways.
Post # 78
clovesa2015 : thank you for this. Many of the bees have been scaring me about the possibility of a C-section. I’ve been with my Dr. For 15 years and he knows everything about my history. Finding a new OBGYN isn’t an option for me. I trust him. I also will not be having another baby. My husband and I are a 1 and done family for financial and (my) health reasons. So a c section isn’t an issue when I think about subsequent births, because there will be no subsequent births.
Post # 79
I can’t remember the exact weights they predicted but my son measured a couple weeks ahead at 28 and 32 weeks, 80th and 75th percentiles. While I wouldn’t want you to go through this stress, he then dropped to 25th at my 36 week scan and was born at 39+4 at 6lb13oz. So like other people have said potentially not super accurate (also the scan a week before he was born at 38+4 estimated he was already 7lb4oz…)
Post # 80
daniellemc : I totally forgot to tell you the best thing about having a larger baby! Once babies are about 12 pounds they can sleep longer stretches. My 6-week-old was sleeping 5-7 hours through the night which meant I got to sleep too 🙂
Post # 81
There are lots of anecdotes on this thread, but here is some actual evidence.
From the article
“Overall, a total of nine different studies from 1992 to 2015 have all shown that it is the suspicion of a big baby—not big babies themselves—that leads to higher induction rates, higher Cesarean rates, and higher diagnoses of stalled labor (Levine et al. 1992; Weeks et al. 1995; Parry et al. 2000; Weiner et al. 2002; Sadeh-Mestechkin et al. 2008; Blackwell et al. 2009; Melamed et al. 2010; Little et al. 2012; Peleg et al. 2015).”
Please get a 2nd opinion.
Post # 82
Those scans can be wildly off… in fact I don’t know a single mom whose doctor predicted their baby’s weight anything close. Doctors thought my daughter would be a 9 pound baby. I vaginally delivered at 40 w 1 day a 7 pound 4 ounce baby. I think I had 2 newborn size sleepers.. and even those were huge at first (no way could we have gotten away without them)- I had to have family run out for more newborn clothes and diapers! I will admit she had a big head making her look larger than her weight- and the cutest chubby cheeks- she wore newborn clothes for almost a month and newborn size diapers for 2 months. Maybe it made for a harder delivery, but as she is my only I have nothing to compare it to. She is 15 months now and her body has caught up with her head (same percentile as height and weight now). Also LOTS of places will exchanged unopened diapers- even without receipts.
Post # 83
Coworker had her baby last night and he was 8lbs at 39 weeks. At a 34 week scan they told her he was 7.5 lbs. So yea, I dont think those are accurate at all.
Post # 84
They are SO inaccurate.
And you won’t know if you are unable to birth a large baby until you try. I’m 4’10.my first son was born at 33 weeks at 5lbs 12oz. Amazing for his gestation. His brother was born at 41w 8 lbs 6 oz. my on then told me I wouldn’t be able to birth a large baby and would require a c-section. Nope I did it just fine. In fact my labour from start to finish was 1.5 hours.
I have 5 children. With my last I had everything under the sun wrong. Pre-eclampsia, gestional diabetes (insulin’s dependant), failing kidneys, threw up the entire time and no meds helped. Anemia, Carpal tunnel.. lol it was a nightmare. I had ultrasounds weekly from 15 weeks. They told me he was going to be big. At 36 weeks they told me he was 7lbs 14oz
well when he was born at 39 weeks (induced) he was 7lbs 14 oz. according to the general rule of 1/2lb a week he would have been 9 1/2 pounds.
These ultrasounds are so inaccurate. My sister was estimated to have an 11lb baby. She was 8’11. I know so many others where it was wrong. It’s an estimate. Not a conclusive weight.
I am am glad you are seeing your health care professional. The fact that you are resenting this baby for being uncomfortable (sorry but what did you expect? Every woman is huge and uncomfortable) isn’t right. It’s super unhealthy. I hope you get the help you need.
Post # 85
Not TTC yet and never had a baby so I’m just lurking for now but I was a 9 pound baby! And I was born two weeks early, didn’t even have rolls, I just looked like an slightly bigger baby but not overweight. Lolll I grew up to be 5’4″ and thin, I was even underweight at some point ._. but I got over that issue years ago so it doesn’t mean anything (from personal experience). I was the tallest kid in elementary school but then my growing slowed down, oh well. My little brother was born at 11lbs! He’s about 6’2″ now so that makes sense 😂 he couldn’t use newborn diapers
Post # 86
Oh and my mom needed a c section both times. She’s a tiny petite lady, only 5′ who birthed us monsters (Joking)