- 2 years ago
- Wedding: January 2017
Pregnancy sucks and for some so does birth. I was in the both sucks category. When it comes to birthing, I’m of the mindset that some people have good vaginal births and some of have bad ones – likewise for c-sections. It’s really a gamble. Since lots of PP’s have shared best case scenarios for vaginal births and worst case scenarios for c-sections, I thought I would share a worst case vaginal birth. My baby was 9lbs 10oz and got stuck during vaginal delivery due to his size (baby measured a bit large at 20 weeks but my stomach measured below average so doctors were expecting a 7 pounder). After 3 unsuccessful attempts with the vacuum, the doctors broke my baby’s collarbone. Between the hematoma from the vacuum, the collarbone and mec in my amniotic fluid my baby was taken to the NICU for about a week. I had 5 seconds with him and didn’t get skin to skin until the next day. The head doctor told me I was lucky that my son didn’t get brain damage. I had a second degree and a first degree tear and my second degree tear was so swollen that it didn’t get stitched up correctly so now I have to go for plastic surgery. At 8 days post partum, I got a kidney infection from a silent UTI. While I luckily didn’t get ppd, I did mourn the fact that I didn’t get to breastfeed, that my baby didn’t fit into newborn sized clothing and that all I could dress my baby in was sleepers because one arm had to be immobilized. Prior to birth, I had so many people tell me how bad c-sections were that I did what I could to avoid one. C-sections aren’t evil, they’re designed to avoid situations like mine.
It seems like you’re open to whatever goes now that you’ve had a chance to wrap your mind around it and if you want to try for a vaginal birth, that’s ok too – just be sure to find out the point in which if the birth starts going bad that you need to advocate for a c-section.
Also, FWIW, after I came to terms with it, having a bigger baby has been amazing in so many ways.
I can’t remember the exact weights they predicted but my son measured a couple weeks ahead at 28 and 32 weeks, 80th and 75th percentiles. While I wouldn’t want you to go through this stress, he then dropped to 25th at my 36 week scan and was born at 39+4 at 6lb13oz. So like other people have said potentially not super accurate (also the scan a week before he was born at 38+4 estimated he was already 7lb4oz…)
There are lots of anecdotes on this thread, but here is some actual evidence.
From the article
“Overall, a total of nine different studies from 1992 to 2015 have all shown that it is the suspicion of a big baby—not big babies themselves—that leads to higher induction rates, higher Cesarean rates, and higher diagnoses of stalled labor (Levine et al. 1992; Weeks et al. 1995; Parry et al. 2000; Weiner et al. 2002; Sadeh-Mestechkin et al. 2008; Blackwell et al. 2009; Melamed et al. 2010; Little et al. 2012; Peleg et al. 2015).”
Please get a 2nd opinion.
Those scans can be wildly off… in fact I don’t know a single mom whose doctor predicted their baby’s weight anything close. Doctors thought my daughter would be a 9 pound baby. I vaginally delivered at 40 w 1 day a 7 pound 4 ounce baby. I think I had 2 newborn size sleepers.. and even those were huge at first (no way could we have gotten away without them)- I had to have family run out for more newborn clothes and diapers! I will admit she had a big head making her look larger than her weight- and the cutest chubby cheeks- she wore newborn clothes for almost a month and newborn size diapers for 2 months. Maybe it made for a harder delivery, but as she is my only I have nothing to compare it to. She is 15 months now and her body has caught up with her head (same percentile as height and weight now). Also LOTS of places will exchanged unopened diapers- even without receipts.
Coworker had her baby last night and he was 8lbs at 39 weeks. At a 34 week scan they told her he was 7.5 lbs. So yea, I dont think those are accurate at all.
They are SO inaccurate.
And you won’t know if you are unable to birth a large baby until you try. I’m 4’10.my first son was born at 33 weeks at 5lbs 12oz. Amazing for his gestation. His brother was born at 41w 8 lbs 6 oz. my on then told me I wouldn’t be able to birth a large baby and would require a c-section. Nope I did it just fine. In fact my labour from start to finish was 1.5 hours.
I have 5 children. With my last I had everything under the sun wrong. Pre-eclampsia, gestional diabetes (insulin’s dependant), failing kidneys, threw up the entire time and no meds helped. Anemia, Carpal tunnel.. lol it was a nightmare. I had ultrasounds weekly from 15 weeks. They told me he was going to be big. At 36 weeks they told me he was 7lbs 14oz
well when he was born at 39 weeks (induced) he was 7lbs 14 oz. according to the general rule of 1/2lb a week he would have been 9 1/2 pounds.
These ultrasounds are so inaccurate. My sister was estimated to have an 11lb baby. She was 8’11. I know so many others where it was wrong. It’s an estimate. Not a conclusive weight.
I am am glad you are seeing your health care professional. The fact that you are resenting this baby for being uncomfortable (sorry but what did you expect? Every woman is huge and uncomfortable) isn’t right. It’s super unhealthy. I hope you get the help you need.
Not TTC yet and never had a baby so I’m just lurking for now but I was a 9 pound baby! And I was born two weeks early, didn’t even have rolls, I just looked like an slightly bigger baby but not overweight. Lolll I grew up to be 5’4″ and thin, I was even underweight at some point ._. but I got over that issue years ago so it doesn’t mean anything (from personal experience). I was the tallest kid in elementary school but then my growing slowed down, oh well. My little brother was born at 11lbs! He’s about 6’2″ now so that makes sense 😂 he couldn’t use newborn diapers
Oh and my mom needed a c section both times. She’s a tiny petite lady, only 5′ who birthed us monsters (Joking)