(Closed) Gift amounts

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
2948 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I spend $50 for the showers and $100 on wedding.

Post # 18
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think some of it is  based on how much you make too.  I mean for some people $50.00 is alot of money and for others $1k is no sweat.  

Register for a range of things, and don’t count on getting everything. 

Post # 19
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I always do cash for weddings $250/pp, usually up to $100 for the wedding. we’re not well off but I was raised to always bring this amount to every wedding, even more for close family and friends. Usually there’s a decent amount of notice in our social circles to get the money together

Post # 20
3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

For a shower gift I spend between $30 and $50. For a wedding, my Fiance and I give $100 cash for the both of us. Where we’re located (midwest) that’s a pretty common amount.

Post # 21
201 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I live in Avon Lake and got married last year.  The gifts we received varried a lot: anywhere from $25-$150 per couple.  You’ll see a lot of posts about higher gift amounts on the Bee, but we only got more from a few close relatives.  We had a few people give us nothing, too.  That surprised me a lot because our circle are all college graduates that are gainfully employed.

Post # 22
222 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Shower gift – $50-100

Wedding Gift – $125-250

Post # 23
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Shower $50-100

Wedding Gift $150+

Post # 24
11519 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

We usually do $50 or $100 depending on if one or both of us is invited to the wedding.

Shower gifts, I tend to also do around $50.

It also depends on how well you know the person, what else you’re doing etc…


I know The Bay here in Canada actually has a guide for how many gifts at what price points you should register for depending on the number of guests.

Post # 25
1397 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

For a shower gift, I spent between $25-$75. I’d go for more if my BFF was getting married. For a wedding gift, $100-$150.

Post # 26
2085 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

For me personally, at a shower I usually spend $40 ish.  If it’s someone I’m close to, maybe a bit more, but I don’t make a lot of money. I’m a supply teacher and my funds are pretty limited.

If we’re going to a wedding, I used to give like $50, but I’ve been with my Fiance now since I was 23 and any weddings we’ve been to since then we usually give $80-100.  However every wedding we’ve been to has involved quite a bit of travelling, like 5+ hours of driving which means gas + hotel… so if it were a local wedding, maybe we’d give more?

To be honest, I feel like $80 is kind of low… i’d like to give a minimum of $100, more if we could afford it. But my Fiance is in school and I am not making a lot of money, so we do what we can.

Post # 27
1578 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

We got between $30 and $60 for the most part.




One friend of the family bought us a $150 vacuum. 


Post # 28
1856 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

At our wedding, we received gifts between $50 and $1,000 – the upper amount from immediate family for whom we’re the only kids/grandchildren and the lower from very thoughtful family who we never imagined would send us something. If we exclude the extraordinarily generous family presents, we had amounts between $50 and $200, almost all from people who couldn’t attend; some were from individuals and others from couples (but all family/long-time family friends). We were really shocked at people’s generosity.

I think the thing with registeries is that in some regions/social circles, it’s typical to buy off the registry for a shower (so items anywhere from $10 to $80 might be appropriate depending on who is attending) and people give money for the wedding. So it’s good to register for things at all kinds of price points.

Post # 29
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

we do presentation (cash) at weddings where I am from. usually presentation is 75-125 per person attending the wedding. unfortunately can’t give you an idea for a shower because I have yet to attend one. 

Post # 30
9950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To answer your Question… many factors can come into play

* How much money one has to spend… (I am semi-retired, so have more disposible income than someone who is probably young and just starting out in life)

* What is the norm in their family / part of the country (bigger cities and people usually spend more because they make more, and things cost more overall)

* Whether I am able to attend the event (more) or not able to go (less)

* And how well / close they are to the Bride / persons gettting married.

Personally, living in Canada, my standard is aprox $ 35 to $ 75 for a Shower Present, and $ 100 to $ 200 for a Wedding Present (amounts are representative of whether I go alone, or with Mr TTR)

Hope this helps,

As for Registries… they are meant to help a couple start off their married life together for day-to-day needs (pots, pans, dishes, towels, sheets) and maybe some niceties too (decor items, china, silver, crystal)… or for things that a couple could share / enjoy together (a DVD player, BBQ / Grill, Camping Equipment).  NOT meant for personal items, or any mention EVER of cash…


Post # 31
543 posts
Busy bee

@JaneyDcat:  same here. $25 for shower, $50 for wedding.

I have been to very few weddings that were more than a cake and punch reception, so it’s not like somebody dished out $100 a plate on us. That is very common where I’m from, and actually its pretty common to only give a shower gift. Older relatives, grandparents and such, tend to give much more.

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