- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 1998
I spend $50 for the showers and $100 on wedding.
I spend $50 for the showers and $100 on wedding.
I think some of it is based on how much you make too. I mean for some people $50.00 is alot of money and for others $1k is no sweat.
Register for a range of things, and don’t count on getting everything.
I always do cash for weddings $250/pp, usually up to $100 for the wedding. we’re not well off but I was raised to always bring this amount to every wedding, even more for close family and friends. Usually there’s a decent amount of notice in our social circles to get the money together
For a shower gift I spend between $30 and $50. For a wedding, my Fiance and I give $100 cash for the both of us. Where we’re located (midwest) that’s a pretty common amount.
I live in Avon Lake and got married last year. The gifts we received varried a lot: anywhere from $25-$150 per couple. You’ll see a lot of posts about higher gift amounts on the Bee, but we only got more from a few close relatives. We had a few people give us nothing, too. That surprised me a lot because our circle are all college graduates that are gainfully employed.
Shower gift – $50-100
Wedding Gift – $125-250
Wedding Gift $150+
We usually do $50 or $100 depending on if one or both of us is invited to the wedding.
Shower gifts, I tend to also do around $50.
It also depends on how well you know the person, what else you’re doing etc…
I know The Bay here in Canada actually has a guide for how many gifts at what price points you should register for depending on the number of guests.
For a shower gift, I spent between $25-$75. I’d go for more if my BFF was getting married. For a wedding gift, $100-$150.
For me personally, at a shower I usually spend $40 ish. If it’s someone I’m close to, maybe a bit more, but I don’t make a lot of money. I’m a supply teacher and my funds are pretty limited.
If we’re going to a wedding, I used to give like $50, but I’ve been with my Fiance now since I was 23 and any weddings we’ve been to since then we usually give $80-100. However every wedding we’ve been to has involved quite a bit of travelling, like 5+ hours of driving which means gas + hotel… so if it were a local wedding, maybe we’d give more?
To be honest, I feel like $80 is kind of low… i’d like to give a minimum of $100, more if we could afford it. But my Fiance is in school and I am not making a lot of money, so we do what we can.
We got between $30 and $60 for the most part.
One friend of the family bought us a $150 vacuum.
At our wedding, we received gifts between $50 and $1,000 – the upper amount from immediate family for whom we’re the only kids/grandchildren and the lower from very thoughtful family who we never imagined would send us something. If we exclude the extraordinarily generous family presents, we had amounts between $50 and $200, almost all from people who couldn’t attend; some were from individuals and others from couples (but all family/long-time family friends). We were really shocked at people’s generosity.
I think the thing with registeries is that in some regions/social circles, it’s typical to buy off the registry for a shower (so items anywhere from $10 to $80 might be appropriate depending on who is attending) and people give money for the wedding. So it’s good to register for things at all kinds of price points.
we do presentation (cash) at weddings where I am from. usually presentation is 75-125 per person attending the wedding. unfortunately can’t give you an idea for a shower because I have yet to attend one.
To answer your Question… many factors can come into play
* How much money one has to spend… (I am semi-retired, so have more disposible income than someone who is probably young and just starting out in life)
* What is the norm in their family / part of the country (bigger cities and people usually spend more because they make more, and things cost more overall)
* Whether I am able to attend the event (more) or not able to go (less)
* And how well / close they are to the Bride / persons gettting married.
Personally, living in Canada, my standard is aprox $ 35 to $ 75 for a Shower Present, and $ 100 to $ 200 for a Wedding Present (amounts are representative of whether I go alone, or with Mr TTR)
Hope this helps,
As for Registries… they are meant to help a couple start off their married life together for day-to-day needs (pots, pans, dishes, towels, sheets) and maybe some niceties too (decor items, china, silver, crystal)… or for things that a couple could share / enjoy together (a DVD player, BBQ / Grill, Camping Equipment). NOT meant for personal items, or any mention EVER of cash…
@JaneyDcat: same here. $25 for shower, $50 for wedding.
I have been to very few weddings that were more than a cake and punch reception, so it’s not like somebody dished out $100 a plate on us. That is very common where I’m from, and actually its pretty common to only give a shower gift. Older relatives, grandparents and such, tend to give much more.
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