(Closed) Gift arrived! What’s it for? Do I open it?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Tell your friend it arrived and just ask if it’s a wedding gift or a bridal shower gift so that you know the appropriate time to open it. Hell, she may go ahead and tell you to dive in.

Post # 4
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

Open it and send the thank you out. Aren’t you excited to see what it is?!

Post # 5
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Open it and send a thank you. People want to know that you received their gift.

Post # 6
4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Even if it’s a wedding gift you should still open it (at least to make sure it’s not broken and everything is there) and so that you can send a thank-you note for it immediately! If it’s a shower gift for this possible-suprise-shower, well, the same goes.

Post # 7
417 posts
Helper bee

I agree, open it!!

Post # 8
15 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Etiquette says to open it and send a thank you.  If one of your bridesmaid meant for it to be opened over the weekend they would have sent it to another address so they could give it to your another time.  Does the box say who its from?  If its not from one of the girls the sender meant for you to get it and open it.  I’m with zippylef, if your worried, tell your friend it came.  She will probably tell you to dive in. Laughing Enjoy your first gift!

Post # 9
735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wedding gifts are traditionally (and appropriately) sent to the bride’s home prior to the wedding. (Just imagine if everyone brought them to the wedding – someone would have to load them all up in a car and get them to your house anyway!)  The bride is expected to open the gifts as they arrive, and write a prompt thank you note to the sender.

HOWEVER it is considered inappropriate/bad luck/bad form by many gift givers to USE the wedding gifts prior to the wedding.  And if the wedding is called off, the bride is supposed to return the gifts to the senders. (Which is why they should not be used.)

As far as bridal showers go – the main entertainment is the opening of gifts by the guest of honor (you!).  The gifts are traditionally smaller than wedding gifts (so as not to embarrass you in front of the guests) so it’s unlikely that a gift for a shower would be mailed to your home.  If someone couldn’t attend, they’d probably send a gift with one of the BMs acting as hostess.

So, open that box up!  Get cracking on the thank you notes, and get ready for some more gifts from the people who love you and are almost as happy and excited about your upcoming wedding as you are!

Post # 11
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I second opening it to make sure nothing is broken.  My future step-grandmother in-law (wow, that’s a long title) sent me a glass pitcher for the shower and it arrived broken.  Luckily, Crate and Barrel was AMAZING about replacing it but depending on the store, it may take longer to resolve any issues.

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