Post # 1
Okay so my wedding is a month away and we’ve recieved our first wedding gift. Yipee!! I’ve already figured out what I want to do for a thank you card but they can’t be created until AFTER the wedding has occured, and I have cute thank yous for the shower gifts but they are shower specific. So what the heck do I do with this very punctual and appreciated wedding gift?
Post # 3
Send a generic thank you note now. You can send another, cuter one later. The gifter should be acknowledged so they know their gift has arrived.
Post # 4
I know there is an etiquette that a thank you note should be sent immediately upon receiving the gift. We don’t usually like wedding etiquettes but we’ve been following this all along. As a gift giver, I would want to know if the bride/groom have received my gift. Especially if it’s shipped over the internet.
Maybe you can call the gift giver for now and send the note after the wedding? I really do think that you need to at least let them know you have received the gift. You shouldn’t wait until a month to send the thank you note.
Post # 5
Did they use a registry service? Often the service can track for you whether or not the item has arrived or not…
Post # 6
You should go out and buy a box (or two) of thank you cards to use right now. If you have a great thank you card idea for afterwards, that’s wonderful, and you can still send them even to the folks who previously got a thank you card (just to thank them for attending) but you should send something as soon as possible. Plus it just gets it out of the way. Our wedding is in two weeks, and over the past month we have received a gift almost every day! It is not a lot of fun doing marathon thank you note session, so we try to do no more than three or four at a time. Things will definately be less busy after the wedding, but not so much that I want to save up all the thank you notes to do at once.
We also initially had the idea of a thank you card that couldn’t be made up until after the wedding – as we were going to use a photo from the wedding. I came to the conclusion that it was just not practical – mostly as it seems that very few people actually bring a gift to the wedding anymore, and also because when I thought about it, we wouldn’t get the photos for a few weeks, and then wouldn’t get the cards for a few more – and 2 – 3 months after the wedding is just too long. We decided to enclose photos from the wedding with the Christmas cards this year instead.
Post # 7
I’ve also been the recipient of a very nice thank you note that required post-wedding creation, and it was WAYYYY late. We gave our gift on the day of the wedding, and received ours about 4 months later. My mom fared a little worse: she sent her gift about 2 months before the wedding and didn’t get her note until 6 months after!
Very cool thank you note 6 months after the wedding vs cool thank you note 1 month after the wedding? I’d take the 1 month note. It’s the message inside that counts, and people remember how long it takes to send a thank you note!
Post # 8
PS — I didn’t answer your post! Sorry. I agree with Niki.
Post # 9
I’m with Niki – send one now, and then one later as well. Better to send too many, then non or one really late 🙂