(Closed) Gift Certificates to the Art of Shaving for Groom and Groomsmen

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Deal with it.  Most men I know are VERY particular about their hair and facial hair.  Fiance has a beard (he works at a very high-end private school) and if anyone told him to shave it, he. would. flip. out.

You cannot tell your groomsmen how to wear their hair (head, facial or otherwise) and certainly can’t tell people to get their hair cut.

Edit: I only mentioned FI’s profession to illustrate that he works in a professional setting, yet has facial hair.  Maybe his facial hair would appear Burning-Man-esque to others but he loves it, and so do I!

Post # 4
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2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

Sorry – not ok.  You don’t have the right to groom these guys.  You can offer them the option of hair cut and shave the same way you could offer your bridesmaids hair styling and makeup – but you can’t tell them they have to have any of this done.  Nor do you have any right to force this guy to cut his hair to the length you find acceptable.  I think the plan to just deal is the right one.  You want pictures to capture memories not be works of art!  you will have plenty of beautiful pics that this guy won’t even be in

Also, if people have never had a straight edge shave before (not sure if that is what A of S would do) you might want to reconsider – it can cause some people to break out/have a bit of a rash look….

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Also agree with Janna that your FI/other guys might not even want this as a “gift”.  Fiance has a very particular way of trimming his beard and on our wedding day, he would want to do it himself.  Same with hair.  He goes to the same shop every time and would NOT appreciate going to a new one where they might “mess up” his hair.

Post # 6
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350 posts
Helper bee

Ditto the others, you don’t get to tell the groomsman how he wears his hair or facial hair, especially something as dramatic as a haircut!  Presumably your Fiance picked these guys because they are his closest friends and family, and he loves them just as they are.  That means you should too.  There aren’t THAT many wedding party pictures anyway, and usually the ones of the bridal party are from kinda far away anyway.

Post # 8
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4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I still don’t agree with you.  You just can’t tell people how to look or cut their hair.  Some people like long hair, and maybe he likes the way his facial hair looks.  Either way it doesn’t matter because it’s not your place to make these decisions.  Sorry.

Post # 9
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350 posts
Helper bee

I understand what you are saying, but I just really wouldn’t go there.  I think the most you could ask would be for him to pull his hair back in a ponytail or something.. and even there I would tread lightly.

You could try the certificate thing, but there is a huge chance that his friends will get mad at you and call you a bridezilla behind his back (not saying you are one, but I am like 99% positive that is how guys would perceive it.)  If Groomsmen wears his hair that way it’s because that is what he is comfortable in, and what he feels reflects “him.”  You wouldn’t ask your female friend to lose 20 pounds for your wedding, would you?  It’s the same thing. 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can’t imagine your groomsman would cut his hair just for your wedding and I don’t really think its appropriate to ask him to do that.  Is there anyway your Fiance can mention to him to try to look as groomed as possible for the wedding?  I don’t think it has to be made into a big ordeal, but I’m sure a casual joking mention to his friend would be fine.  Unless your groomsman is clueless, I’m sure he knows how he looks and may be fine with making an extra effort to clean up for your wedding day.

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