Post # 1
Fiance and I were invited to my boss’s son’s wedding and I’ve drug my feet finding a gift, the wedding is tomorrow. Luckily I won’t be working tomorrow and I’ll have all day to find something. But I don’t know him or his fiance well at all, I’ve met them maybe 3 times in 3 years. My boss says don’t worry about bringing a gift, but I think that would be rude. I want to atleast cover our plates.
What do you typically give or spend on someone you don’t know well? Also he is in the Navy and they won’t have a place to “call home” for a few years, she’s driving from Oregon to Virginia after the wedding and won’t have room for wedding gifts in her car, so whatever they get will go in storage here or she’ll sell. This coming second hand from my boss.
Fiance and I thought a gift card to Crate and Barrel would be good, but how much?
Thank you 🙂
Post # 3
@StbHisMrs: I’d say between $150 – $300 is nice. What do you do? This depends a lot on your “status” (tacky I know, but the truth). If your the bosses assitant obviously you don’t need to give too much, but if your a lawyer, dr, business partner, more is expected.
Post # 4
we got alot of gifts of checks in $150-$175 range and i thought that was nice, thoughtful and plenty.
Give them cash…cash is king! and then they can get whatever they want…or pay off bills.
Post # 5
do you have any idea of what kind of wedding it is going to be (in other words, do you have an idea of how much “covering your plates” will cost)? given that your boss even made a point of saying that a gift is not necessary (although i’m with you, i’d feel awkward not showing up with a gift), i’d probably go a bit lower and give $100-$150. the PP also makes a good point though that this is somewhat dependent on your position within the company.
Post # 6
@JrzyGurl: I agree. I think this by and large depends on your position at work. Your boss knows how much you make so you don’t want to give too little or too much. I think for you and your SO, $200 is a safe number.
Post # 7
I think that $100-$150 would be just fine. Family and close family friends (well established adults) didn’t give us more than $200.
Post # 8
if you don’t know them, i would give a gift card for $50-100. that’s lower than most gifts, but you don’t really know them, and because it’s your boss’ son you don’t want things to seem improper. honestly, i would probably give $50.
Post # 9
Thank you all!
I suppose I’m mostly viewed as his assistant, although I would argue that.. That is a whole different subject 😉
We’re in insurance. I wondered if $50 was too low, but honestly that is what I was considering. I don’t know them and can’t really afford to give $100-$200 to someone I don’t know. I believe $50 will cover both of our plates.