(Closed) Gift Etiquette?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should they buy you a gift?
    Yes, but it should be something small and sentimental. And I will make sure they know that. : (5 votes)
    15 %
    Yes, of course the wedding party should buy a gift. : (9 votes)
    26 %
    No, they should not buy us gifts. They've done enough already. : (17 votes)
    50 %
    It depends. See comment below. : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    nope their participation is enough for me – well and buying their clothes and lodging and bachelorette party…. etc. i figure thats enough of their $$…

    Post # 4
    2006 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think a nice heartfelt card is plenty enough 🙂

    I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my sister’s wedding a couple of years ago. I was only 19 and just finished my freshman year of college= no money. But I spent 200 on the dress which was a lot for me at the time. My mother also paid the 50 for my hair 30 for nails, 70 in alterations, and $$ plane ticket and hotel to fly halfway across the country in July. It all starts to add up pretty quickly! There was absolutely no money for me to get her a gift so I gave a nice card.

    Post # 5
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had posted a similar poll a few days ago:

    Bridal party and wedding gifts.

    I am on team “no gifts from the bridal party” … but to each their own!

    Post # 6
    1570 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    I guess I’m trying to stay out of the gift-policing business. We’ll treat each gift we receive as a delightful surprise, and not expect any particular person to give one thing or another. In other words, I’m not going to tell our attendants not to get us gifts, but I certainly won’t be hurt or offended if they don’t; especially not the ones who are earning very little right now.

    Post # 7
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I’ve given gifts when I was a bridesmaid. If the expenses of being in the wedding party were particularly high and finances were tight, I might give something smaller, but I wouldn’t give nothing. I’d be surprised if our wedding party didn’t give us wedding gifts, actually, but not upset with them (unless they also didn’t get us cards, because that’s just lazy!).

    Post # 8
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    The last wedding I was in, I figured at the end of the day everything related to the wedding cost me around $1000.  However, it was my best friend, and I still wanted to get her a gift, so I did.

    For my own wedding I’ve told my bridesmaids not to get me anything.

    Post # 9
    2397 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m with spaniel on this one.  I think it’s just nice to give a gift if you’re in the wedding party.  It doesn’t have to be the stand mixer off your registry, it could just be a little $10 candy dish or something.  It’s just a nice gesture. 

    Post # 11
    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I’ve only talked to one of my BMs about this and I told her that she can get me a gift only if she wants to and that I would appreciate it, but I wouldn’t expect it.

    Post # 13
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I’d say it depends on your personal finances.  When I was younger I would only buy a shower gift for my close friends.  Now that I can afford it, I’ll buy a shower gift, bachelorette gift, wedding gift, etc.   

    Post # 14
    1209 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    In the weddings that I have been in I usually help with at least one wedding function (bachlorette party or shower). I have always bought a gift for one shower and do not actually bring a gift or card to the wedding. That being said, I do not expect my attendants to buy me a gift.

    Post # 15
    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Whenever I’ve been in a wedding I have paid for a gift and thown in some $ for the bachelorette party and wedding shower but I don’t think going that far is needed but a nice gesture.

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