(Closed) Gift Etiquette

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Thank you card now or later?

    Now is fine

    Wait until after the wedding, it's more appropriate

  • Post # 3
    338 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    It’s accepted to send a thank you card whenever you receive the gift, whether it be before the wedding or the whole “up to a year after the wedding” rule.

    Post # 4
    47432 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I used to think you should wait until after the wedding as the gifts are sent to the couple.

    I have since changed my mind.

    I think it is reassuring for the giver to know within a reasonable period of time that their gift has arrived.

    Post # 5
    5988 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i would send the card now – otherwise the person is left wondering if you have received the gift and it may cause worry and a awkward phone calls

    and its one less card you will have to do after the wedding – lucky girl!


    Post # 6
    1484 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I always thought you were not supposed to open them/send thank you cards until after the wedding… “just in case”  I was told this by a friend when i noticed room full of bb&b boxes a few months before her wedding.

    Post # 7
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    I sent thank you cards as I got the gifts! It turned out to be SUPER helpful, because it’s only been three weeks since our wedding and I only have two thank you notes left to write – one for a gift I just got today!

    Post # 8
    1870 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think that with the advent of web commerce, whcih involves mail delivery, more people like a thank-you note promptly because then they know the gift was received. 

    I don’t think there’s a hard-and-fast rule on this that says one can only mail thank-yous after the wedding!

    Post # 9
    5983 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: January 1999

    I think either is fine.  Just make certain that you keep a spreadsheet with the name of the gift giver, the gift, and whether or not a thank you was written so that you don’t lose track. 

    Post # 12
    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I think you are supposed to send thank you cards as soon as you get the gift. It’s weird that they would send it so early.. but whatever. I think you have 2 weeks to send thank you’s if you receive it before the wedding, and 4 weeks if you receive it at or after the wedding (accourding to etiquette).

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