Post # 32
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Absolutely not! In fact, my friends who I KNOW can’t afford to get us a gift, I’ve specifically told them I dont WANT one. I invited people to my wedding because I wanted to share that moment with them, not because I wanted a teapot or a wine cozy.
Post # 33
As a host, I didn’t worry about gifts. After all of the planning was said and done, I just wanted our friends and family to show up and help us celebrate. It would upset me more if someone didn’t come because they couldn’t afford a gift, than it would that they didn’t bring one at all.
As a guest though, I understand where your SO is coming from.
Post # 34
I wouldn’t necessarily care about the gift itself either, whether it is cheap/expensive or whatnot, especially if I knew they were in financial difficulty. I would appreciate a nice card though, or even a little heartfelt note scribbled in a $.99 card from Target.
However, I will say it will kind of annoy me if I saw the couple on FB or something bragging about a fabulous European vacation they just took or some equally extravagant purchase and then they don’t even show up with a tiny token gift (e.g. $10 wine) to our wedding. We are the type that always bring something, even if it is to a neighbor’s house for dinner, so I feel like if you can spring for something that expensive, then as a courtesy, you should bring a gift.
Post # 35
Honestly? Giving a gift is less about the gift and more about the thought, but I think you should always bring a gift. Even if it’s only worth $20 or $50. Idk And def bring a card!