Post # 1
About 2 months before our wedding, DH’s cousin got married. We sent her a nice set of wine glasses from her registry a few weeks before her wedding. DH’s cousin and her new Darling Husband also came to our wedding and did not give us a gift. We haven’t received a thank you note for the wedding gift we sent to her. I’m wondering if she didn’t receive our gift, or whether she just didn’t send a note (it’s been over 3 months now). Should I ask her if she received our gift? I feel like asking her points out that she gave us nothing and may be rude. On the other hand, receiving no gift from her makes me think “OMG, what if she never received our gift and thinks we stiffed her?”. What should I do?
Post # 3
I would ask…
It’s possible she DIDN’T get the gift, which would clear up all the confusion regarding thank you notes and YOU not receiving a gift (perhaps she didnt bring one because she thought you never sent one??)…
Or, she DID get your gift, chose to NOT send a thank you note, and chose to NOT bring you a gift. Which is all a LOT more rude than you asking if she received your gift! So I would not worry about coming off as rude.
Post # 5
Maybe in your next conversation with her, you could say something like “I loved the wine glasses we bought you so much that I bought a set for us!” and gage reaction.
Post # 6
I agree with kgarvin01 ! It’s a good idea to somehow bring it up casually like that and gage her reaction. If you visit them, maybe you could snoop around their house to see if they are on display anywhere, ahah!
Post # 7
Well, I talked to Darling Husband and asked him if we should say anything to his cousin and he said yes, that it was pretty weird that we haven’t received a note or anything. So, I sent her an email and asked if she received the gifts we sent. She answered that yes, they received the gifts, but haven’t gotten around to writing thank you notes. She added that she meant to send us a gift, but never got around to that, either. I won’t hold my breath waiting for either one.
Post # 8
@Ms. Kitty: Well that will leave a bad taste in your mouth ehh. But at least you can have closure and move on!
Post # 9
@Ms. Kitty: yeah, that’s annoying…