(Closed) Gift étiquette…?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the norm around the ‘Bee in this circumstance is to not register for anything and make sure people know by word of mouth.  Tell family and close friends why and that money is appreciated, but gifts aren’t expected.  Then be prepared to get some gifts, some cash, and some nothing.

Post # 4
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Something like:

“The happy couple will be relocating to Liinuska’s native Finland to begin their life together. They won’t be moving any personal effects, so no gifts please.”

You can’t ask for $ or gift cards, but if you say “no gifts” some people will take the hint. Unfortunately there’s no proper way to say “we don’t want a crockpot, but we’d love a check”.

Post # 5
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@phillybride61513:  <— this is a good way to put it, but I wouldn’t put it on the invitation itself.  I would refer guests to the wedding website for more information (we used a separate insert, but you could always add a line at the bottom of the actual invitation) and also spread via word of mouth.

Post # 6
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DaneLady:  agreed. improper to put it on the invite itself…

Post # 10
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You could also request guests donate to a charity that you choose in advance, in lieu of gifts. If you don’t want any stuff and are not in a budget crunch, then diverting those gifts to a worthy cause is a win-win.

(funny how this suggestion frequently comes up when we are discussing whether or not to do favors but rarely comes up when we are discussing the gifts part….)

Post # 11
3267 posts
Sugar bee

It is not proper to mention gifts in any way.  It is technically impolite to mention gifts even in a “no gifts” situation.

I suspect that most people invited to your wedding, will know you, and will know that you are moving and that giving you a toaster will be inappropriate.



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